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Originally Posted by momma1995
My daughter is married to an adoptee who has had problems due to him never dealing with his adoption. Now they are separated and getting ready to have a baby. She has no idea how he will react. Any one out there who has any clue or advice to help?
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What does this mean? People have problems of all kinds and for all kinds of reasons. There isn't enough info here to offer advice other than the very basics.
1. If they are married, each needs to put the others needs ahead of their own. Adopted or not, pregnant or not, it doesn't change the fact that in a marriage each person must be committed to the other unconditionally to mnake it truly work.
2. Pregnant doesn't change #1 regardless of all the hype around "put the kids first". If the parents are not on solid ground, the kids will not help the marriage. Parents need to get their stuff worked out and then deal with the fact they are having a child. (P.S. - the clock is ticking)
3. It is never too late to do the right thing. Clinging to some horror story or emotional baggage from an adoption in your childhood will not help anything now. Young man needs to pull up the big-boy britches and be a man for his child on the way.
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