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I just don't see too many people who are single males or who are not upper class who adopt . I just wonder how picky the adoption agencies are which is why im asking....
Single Males make up about 8-10% of the Adoptive Parents. Most adopt older children thru foster/adopts,
SingleMale and baby are rare.
You need to show you can "Afford" a child, So you don't have to be "UpperClass". Middle class, with a place for the kid to live in works fine.
Finding the right agency to work with is key, some will just delay you along with no intention of ever approving you, or find you a child. But will string you along for years, so they don't get sued.
Since finances appear to be a factor in your life, I'm going to assume that international adoption is off the table for you. Domestic newborn adoption will be difficult, but not impossible. Basically, it will be up to the birthmother to choose you as a parent for her child; which frankly the odds are low for that. There may be agencies who specialize in single parent adoption though so google that.
Your best option is U.S. Fostercare. Yes, they allow foster/adoption by single men.
It depends upon how far down the desirability level you wish to go. Chances of a pretty, healthy, newborn, white boy are pretty slim. A 10 year old African American with fetal alcohol syndrome would be a lot easier.
It depends upon how far down the desirability level you wish to go. Chances of a pretty, healthy, newborn, white boy are pretty slim. A 10 year old African American with fetal alcohol syndrome would be a lot easier.
A lot easier to adopt? Maybe. A lot easier to parent, as a single person? Nope. The OP should decide what he can and cannot handle, being a single parent without a lot of money, before he considers adopting someone whom he may not be equipped to handle.
IMHO, Domestic Infant Adoption is a very painful experience. I'm been collecting data for about 18+ months on adoption success rates and it's been a difficult and frustrating experience.
The adoption industry has too many traditional white couples seeking to adopt. This is especially true for couples that are unable to have children naturally. Even more so older couples that have exhausted their medical options and have reluctantly turned to adoption.
These older couples don't rank well on the adoption industry "Ken and Barbie" scale and have to use consultants that engage multiple adoption agencies and consultants in order to try to find them an infant. Success rates are very low. Adoption agencies go to great efforts to hide and distort adoption statistics, especially adoption failure statistics. Some of these failure statistics are as high as 88% ( seven couples out of eight will fail to find a match). Costs are in the high 50s/low 60s with multiple failures(2 to 3) costing $10,000+ per attempt.
Single women have even more difficulty adopting an infant. The adoption industry pushes these women to adopt infants with large exposures to illegal drugs. Again, very high failure rates.
I don't have any data on single men. I would imagine that the adoption industry would be very hesitant to work with single men as it's not their target demographic group. Costs are going to be very high, much higher than traditional couples, probably in line with gay men. Above 60K with lots of failures. I only have a few data sets on gay men, but that data shows very high costs 70k+ with multiple(4+) high costs failures (20k+). But this data consists of VERY small data sets and I don't think these data sets would be predictive or statistically valid.
I would wish you the best in your journey to adopt a child. I've seen the toil it takes on a traditional couples. Take care of yourself and don't let the journey destroy you.
I just don't see too many people who are single males or who are not upper class who adopt . I just wonder how picky the adoption agencies are which is why im asking....
My best friend's sister has 8 children, most of which are adopted. The shocking part to me was that they were a single-income family, and he's a police officer (so hardly a hefty income, by most standards). She later became a dental hygienist (just recently), however, during the adoptions and the majority of the children's young years (most are in high school or going off to college now), her full time job was obviously "mom".
Also, my mother's best friend has adopted a few children. She is an older, single mom to boot. She moved to a more affordable State to afford a larger house for all the children she was adopting. She's on #5, at the moment.
So, while income does factor in, it's obviously not the largest criteria. Actually, now that I think of it, very few of the people I know that have adopted (within my own family and beyond) are people I'd consider as upper class.
As for the single males, well, that's the only demographic that I don't know personally that has adopted, so I can't speak knowledgely in that regard.
It depends upon how far down the desirability level you wish to go. Chances of a pretty, healthy, newborn, white boy are pretty slim. A 10 year old African American with fetal alcohol syndrome would be a lot easier.
Actually, statistically, girls are adopted more in the U.S. (that is why we planned to adopt boys -- we wanted whomever was the least likely to get adopted since we figured their need was greater). Even more interesting that the preferred adoptive sex varies by country. But I get your point.
My best friend's sister has 8 children, most of which are adopted. The shocking part to me was that they were a single-income family, and he's a police officer (so hardly a hefty income, by most standards). She later became a dental hygienist (just recently), however, during the adoptions and the majority of the children's young years (most are in high school or going off to college now), her full time job was obviously "mom".
Also, my mother's best friend has adopted a few children. She is an older, single mom to boot. She moved to a more affordable State to afford a larger house for all the children she was adopting. She's on #5, at the moment.
So, while income does factor in, it's obviously not the largest criteria. Actually, now that I think of it, very few of the people I know that have adopted (within my own family and beyond) are people I'd consider as upper class.
As for the single males, well, that's the only demographic that I don't know personally that has adopted, so I can't speak knowledgely in that regard.
Many "Older" child Adoptions / Special Needs Adoption come with a Adoption Subsidy from the state, (More or less) equal to the FosterCare BoardRate. ~$10-15/Day , Health Insurance is also included from medicaid.
Depending on the Age @ adoption many states give free/reduced college tuition to in state college for Foster/Adopt Children.
So ~6 x 15 x 365 = $33K on Subsidy a year, + with 10 and one income they may get SNAP ....
Many "Older" child Adoptions / Special Needs Adoption come with a Adoption Subsidy from the state, (More or less) equal to the FosterCare BoardRate. ~$10-15/Day , Health Insurance is also included from medicaid.
Depending on the Age @ adoption many states give free/reduced college tuition to in state college for Foster/Adopt Children.
So ~6 x 15 x 365 = $33K on Subsidy a year, + with 10 and one income they may get SNAP ....
I know. It's just still shocking to me that they'd adopt out 6 kids to a family that had already birthed two, and only on one small income. Shocking in a good way, because at the end of the day, these children need loving homes.
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