News, From Russia With Love -- Dealing With Difficult Adoptions. (parents, biological)
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Adoptive Parents Say They've Struggled to Integrate Foreign-Born Children.
After years of failed fertility treatments, Tanya and Mike Mulligan warmed to the idea of foreign adoption after seeing an ad in the newspaper touting a Russian program.
Well, yeah...you just can 't adopt an older child who's been in an institution for their whole life and expect them to be a perfect angel who speaks English and understands what a family is overnight. These couples are idiots for not researching what they were getting into and not learning what they could do to help heal these broken children. Its not the kid's fault, its money-grubbing adoption agencies looking to turn a quick dollar and these stupid people who think that an older child would be a cute idea since they come potty trained.
Sorry, as the mother to two internationally adopted (as infants) children, this crap really burns me up. Those kids are hurting, they are not accessories, playmates for your biological children or instant family members, all of those things are TAUGHT and learned. Most of these kids will be fine long term with counseling and the appropriate parenting techniques but to think you can take a child who has never been loved, never had anyone answer him when he cried and just create a scene out of Leave to Beaver, isn't going to happen.
RAD is a serious disorder and I don't blame these families for being distraught and considering disruption, but I do hate that they were not in any way prepared for the situation they chose.
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