What Would You Do???? (parents, old, adoption, first)

[yhwhshalomjr]

For those with Grand-parents that have deceased

To those that have lost their grand-parents
What would you say or do ; If you could talk to grand-parents right now?
What would be that one "special thing that you would do first?"
Thanks for your replies

[ontheroad]

All 4 of my grandparents are gone; 3 died during my life-time, one before I was born. All 3 of my grandparents were my youthful salvation: kind, thoughtful, generous, and understanding. They taught me two foreign languages; how to play an instrument; how to cook and relish good home-cooked meals; how to plant and sow both real seeds and seeds of love and devotion.

If I had any of the three before me now, I'd tell them how much their support guided me through my adulthood, and thank them for their unqualified love and generous spirit.

I would also share how their wisdom gave me a positive role model to be a better parent and an improved grand-parent.

[Miss Blue]

I would just thank them for love given and lessons learned..I would ask my moms mom what the secret about my brother was, about his adoption to my Aunt. .I think I know the answer, but want it validated..

[yhwhshalomjr]

Yes , back in those days they told us tales about certain things to prevent us from being hurt I guess, or they thought it was too embarrassing to expose a family member.
Dark secrets, or maybe not so dark, but that person had to be protected. I was told a lot of things that didn't add up until later on when i was an adult. Like my grandmother's brother-n-law was a big time Mortician and a pedophile, every time we'd go there for thanksgiving, He would try to hedge me up between the front door and the rooms with the bodies, i was horrified. But everyone swept it under the proverbial rug. I bet if I pulled up that rug, There no telling what i would find> So maybe it's better to let "dead dogs lie" like Grandma used to say.

[Laura707]

My Grandma Edith Irene died when my Mama was a little girl. I have missed her terriably even though I never met her. I have several things that she made that my Mama had, Mama called them "Indian Nickles" that were made out of hammered tin and you hang on the wall. I proudly have them hanging in my house and they are treasures to me. If I could spend a day with her, the first thing I would want to do is catch up on a life time of hugs and kisses! Then sit down and have her tell me about her life and my Mama as a baby... and make sure she knows how much I miss her.

My other Grandparents, I spent a lot of time with growing up. They knew I loved them so much. I would just like to spend the day catching up with them and to hug them till we dropped!

[nicolepsy]

i would thank them and i do when i talk to them. (i talk to them even though they are dead!

[LaceyEx]

I would thank them and tell them how very much I loved/love them and all they meant to me. I do occassionally "talk" to them.

[regarese]

I would just hug them and cry probably.