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Trying to make a long story short. Grandma lives with me and will be giving her adult grandson and his wife a Christmas present this year. Grandma hasn't given him one in over four years because there was no contact from him until he was engaged to his now wife. So Grandma will be giving a present to their son (15 months old) for the first time. But, I just found out that the grandson will be bringing his step-son over and I'm not sure if he needs to be given a gift or not. Grandma has never met this boy. She's seen the great grandson maybe four times, but never the step great-grandson. Everyone else will be getting presents from Grandma. But Grandma will only be getting presents from her daughter as none of the (adult) grandkids give her anything. Should we pick up something for the step great-grandson or not (he's 4 or 5)?
In case it matters, it would not even occur to Grandma to buy anything for either of the great-grandsons. I bought something for the one and just put Grandma's name on it.
I personally would never let one child go without a gift when all the other's received gifts. A 4yo doesn't understand "step" anything and isn't responsible for it anyway.
I personally would never let one child go without a gift when all the other's received gifts. A 4yo doesn't understand "step" anything and isn't responsible for it anyway.
I agree. An age-appropriate toy can be had for a couple of dollars at the grocery store.
Either both kids should get a present or neither one should. I don't see why she would be giving the adult grandson a present either. No presents for four years....why start back up again? He's an adult and apparently not particularly close to her.
Either both kids should get a present or neither one should.
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I don't see why she would be giving the adult grandson a present either. No presents for four years....why start back up again? He's an adult and apparently not particularly close to her.
Because Christmas is a time of "giving." It's a spirit of the season thing. In some really large families, I can imagine agreements to cut back on some of the gift exchanges. Even then, it's still easy to give a small gift. "It's the thought that counts."
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But Grandma will only be getting presents from her daughter as none of the (adult) grandkids give her anything. Should we pick up something for the step great-grandson or not (he's 4 or 5)?
In case it matters, it would not even occur to Grandma to buy anything for either of the great-grandsons. I bought something for the one and just put Grandma's name on it.
Adult grandkids don't have even a small present for their grandmother? It wouldn't occur to a great-grandmother to get anything for the kids? I'm amazed there is even a consideration to offer one child present and deny another. We have given presents to kids we didn't know (friend of a relative who tagged along on Christmas - on Christmas, everyone is invited and no one is left out).
This isn't a putdown of the OP. It just surprises me how different families can celebrate Christmas.
It'd cost less than 10 bucks to get a coloring book and a nice set of crayons. Just sayin. I would've killed, at that age, for a nice set of crayons. lol
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