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My ex wife passed away unexpectedly yesterday morning. We were still friends and, thankfully, my wife is a big believer in families, so anything having to do with my sons, their mother was always invited. She lives about 90 miles away from us but my wife told her she could stay at our house when our son got married here. When my son called and told me, I sat down and had a good cry over it. We were married for just short of 20 years. Not all were good, obviously, but we did have a lot of good times. I got a message from a friend last night expressing her sympathies. Said she knows how it feels when your ex dies because she had been through it. I appreciated that.
On another part of this, after her death, our sons and their wives went to her house to get her life insurance policy and had no idea where she kept it. They have no idea if she had a will and can't find anything other than the deed to her house. Try to keep all important papers in one place and make sure more than one person knows where that place is.
My sincere condolences on this family loss.
The living offspring probably would fair well to put aside such venture in the legal side. Beyond the burial and death certificate. I say this is as person who has dealt with family dynamics where the will or insurance take precedence over the actual parts /opportunity to grieve . Those things can be sat aside for a week or two.its really NOT the next step after notification of loss. The genuine next step is to absorb this loss, Garner support. Share in the loss. Losing a parent is for some a wake up call on the finiteness of life. For some it's a relief.
For you as the ex, you are still apart of this recently departed life story. You too will have moments to access/reflect upon.
Be there for one another..it's not the piece of paper that will matter...it will be how each of you honor this person's legacy.
My sincere condolences on this family loss.
The living offspring probably would fair well to put aside such venture in the legal side. Beyond the burial and death certificate. I say this is as person who has dealt with family dynamics where the will or insurance take precedence over the actual parts /opportunity to grieve . Those things can be sat aside for a week or two.its really NOT the next step after notification of loss. The genuine next step is to absorb this loss, Garner support. Share in the loss. Losing a parent is for some a wake up call on the finiteness of life. For some it's a relief.
For you as the ex, you are still apart of this recently departed life story. You too will have moments to access/reflect upon.
Be there for one another..it's not the piece of paper that will matter...it will be how each of you honor this person's legacy.
Nov3, the reason they did all this the day of her death is neither son live in the same town as their mother. One lives almost 60 miles away and the other about 90. The town where she died in the hospital was closer to where she lived, plus they needed the insurance policy for the funeral home. This way, instead of going home, then going to her place to look, then back home and back for the services, they went ahead and got everything at her house taken care of.
My exhusband died a few years ago, too. It’s a strange set of emotions, I know. Our two grown children were at the funeral, but i wasn’t. He had 2 wives after me, but yet we were married when I was 18 and he was 22. We experienced our youth together, full of hopefulness. He remained a good father to our two children, and the two children with wife #2. My sadness was more about what might have been.
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