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Been reading up on it, as I fight to call her Sybil. How do I deal with this? She forgets things she just said and did. The kids are looking at me as if to say, whats wrong with Mommy. I know I am not the only person in the world to experience this, but she denies anything I witness. In a world where the Man is guilty of everything before repeatedly proven innocent, I feel I have nowhere to go, and nobody to just talk to. Lawyers and shrinks cost too much money, and just calling around and talking to the wrong person will land my ass in trouble. I ask you all - HELP!!!!
Some of what you describe sounds like dementia. I think you'd best start with your primary care physician and get a referral to a neurologist. Your family doctor could give your wife a simple Mini Status Exam which is a short interview that tests memory.
If your wife does have dementia, I suggest you contact the Alzheimer's Association. They have a great many resources that may be helpful to you. I don't know your location, but the Alz Assoc in New York City at 360 Lexington Ave. is fantastic. They have an extensive website and a hotline you can call to talk to someone about this problem.
Keep in mind that hospital emergency rooms also help with mental problems (not just physical problems). So you can call them and ask what to do - or take your wife there - or even ask that the police take her there if she is a threat to herself or someone else.
And if you call and it is not a big emergency, like what you described above, they should point you in the right direction. Be sure to tell them what insurance you have/don't have.
Is your wife willing to see her doctor? Talk to your wife about the situation at a time when the house is quiet, and you both can talk calmly.
Tell her that you're concerned about her health.
The first step is to get her to see a doctor. If she won't go to the doctor than perhaps make an appointment for yourself with her doctor & explain the issues that worry you right now about your wife's memory, behavior, etc.
Does she only forget things that happened recently, or is she forgetting things that happened in the past also?
Definitely speak to a doctor about your wife's problems.
Please don't call the ER. They are way too busy. Call your local meantal health center for resources. If you have insurance call your carrier and ask for a paneled list of providers.
OK all, thank you for the kind advice. After my extreme research into this, it does not appear to be dementia, rather like one other personality is becoming present. Kind of like a 'possession'.
I think the first thing I need to do, in order to prove to her that things happen that she does not remember, is record the event- +1 to Joe. Then she can see that I have evidence, and am not lying.
I doubt that she would invite help without proof.
As for Sue's comment, I guess you don't understand what I meant by what could happen to me if I start poking around in the professional medical world, as a Man, with a very unique claim against his wife. Men are guilty before proven innocent. Period. Women/Mothers are given the benefit of doubt and consideration, IN ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. I have children, and there's this thing called Social Services... a blessing and a curse. Some of these people/case workers in "Protection" agencies, love to jump all over the Man in a situation, because they want to justify the years they spent in College. And I have my story, and she has hers. Mine sounds crazy. And unless I have proof to back up my claims, chances are that my rights will be overlooked. All to follow their protocol, and initially protect the Mother and children first. What a mess that could happen. I have to go about this carefully, and not just start involving agencies and unnecessary investigations.
Video evidence and her witnessing it, is step one.
Once she has realized the truth, seeking help is step two.
This way the children are fine, and agencies don't do a happy dance all over BOTH of our reputations.
Chuck, your wife needs a complete medical evaluation. MAKE AN APPT ALREADY.
Mentally ill people are often incapable of understanding "the truth" so waiting for her to realize it is not a good plan.
You need backup. Do you have any family or close friends to help you get her to a doctor?
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