Jealousy and mental HEALTH

[luv80s]

I had a best friend who I had to cut off a few years ago because of her insane jealousy. She had depression that she didn't get help for so of course it wasn't always pleasant to be around her. I couldn't tell her anything good that happened to me without her attacking me. Seriously, if I told her something like "guess what happened to me today? I found a $5 bill by my car." She would say "Oh arent you a lucky *****" so mean and sarcastically. I do not brag about anything by any means and I was so hurt by the way she was acting to me. Well eventually she went all crazy on me and started leaving me hateful messages on my callnotes and emails. I even went to the police to file a report on her because I was afraid of what she might do, she was getting that out of hand. She lived several states away so thank goodness for the distance.

I haven't spoken to her in a few years and I was sorry our friendship had to end but it was for the best. She had some major self esteem issues and took out her anger and jealousy on others. I tried to help her but only she could help herself. I feel bad for her because she is a good person but what could I do?

[WannaBNorCal]

Originally Posted by luv80s

Well eventually she went all crazy on me and started leaving me hateful messages on my callnotes and emails. I even went to the police to file a report on her because I was afraid of what she might do, she was getting that out of hand. She lived several states away so thank goodness for the distance.

That's not good!!! It's good you went to the police - it sounds as of depression may not have been her only problem, unfortunately.
Hurting people hurt people, misery loves company, and soetimes people feel "less than" if they don't have something their friend may have - when really it's not that important in the first place.
Keep it Simple and Easy Does It

[Mattie Jo]

Originally Posted by luv80s

I had a best friend who I had to cut off a few years ago because of her insane jealousy. She had depression that she didn't get help for so of course it wasn't always pleasant to be around her. I couldn't tell her anything good that happened to me without her attacking me. Seriously, if I told her something like "guess what happened to me today? I found a $5 bill by my car." She would say "Oh arent you a lucky *****" so mean and sarcastically. I do not brag about anything by any means and I was so hurt by the way she was acting to me. Well eventually she went all crazy on me and started leaving me hateful messages on my callnotes and emails. I even went to the police to file a report on her because I was afraid of what she might do, she was getting that out of hand. She lived several states away so thank goodness for the distance.

I haven't spoken to her in a few years and I was sorry our friendship had to end but it was for the best. She had some major self esteem issues and took out her anger and jealousy on others. I tried to help her but only she could help herself. I feel bad for her because she is a good person but what could I do?

You did the right thing. I have been in that situation in my life and tried to help others, but it didn't work. Sometimes the best help you can give is to walk away from them. It is hard because you care about them, but you have to come first.

[luv80s]

I know I did the right thing by ending our friendship but it still hurt because we had been friends for 10 years. She wasn't always crazy in the beginning. A little weird maybe. It was a few years after high school and she moved away when she began acting out of hand. I think she may have been manic depressive but I'm no doctor so I can't say for sure. Sometimes I wonder how she is doing but my husband says not to go there because who knows what she will do. Its been a few years so I don't know how much she has changed or if she seeked help for her mental illness. Want to hear the scary thing? We moved this year and now I live less than a 140 miles from her. Yikes!

[WannaBNorCal]

Originally Posted by luv80s

Sometimes I wonder how she is doing but my husband says not to go there because who knows what she will do. Its been a few years so I don't know how much she has changed or if she seeked help for her mental illness. Want to hear the scary thing? We moved this year and now I live less than a 140 miles from her. Yikes!

I used to have a friendship like this, and it's kind of a weird feeling when we do wonder how former friends are doing. If we're wondering - most likely the other person is too. I have found that when I'm thinking certain things, and think it's me - I come to find out that others - whether it's a friend or a family member or an aquaintance, was thinking the same thing.
Odd ain't it...It can be sad when good times with good friends come to an end, but change happens all the time. I had a terrible time when i was younger - girl used to be jealous of me all the time, because I always did my own thing. I was a successful loner Jealoust aimed at others hurts.