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When walking, say good morning or afternoon to everyone you pass, even if they don't reply. I always have polite conversation with strangers. Go to the same grocery store every week or a few times a week and have great conversation with strangers or cashiers!
Over time you will get to know them and they, you!
I only have 2 girlfriends here, one met at the winery next door, and we connected, the other at the same friends, book club, really a Wine Club, lol. I live next door to my Dad, about 100 yards apart. I see him every day. My brother comes up once or twice a week, so I see him then, lives an hour south. Other than that, I'm alone, but not lonely.
I’ve always been alone and wish I had some company for a change. I have no family and never once had a girlfriend. I’ve always been too ugly and just basically a loser. When you go out at places, no one looks at you. No one talks to you or even makes eye contact. Walk around a mall and everyone ignores you. Go to an event, same thing. You look around and almost no one is by themself.
So what do people do get to know anyone? You will look weird if you walk up to strangers and just try to say anything. You’re either interrupting them or bothering them. I am weary of being alone and just basically desperate at this point. It’s been a lot of years.
Based on attitudes expressed in the first paragraph, my opinion is go to fundamentals first. If it's been a lot of years something is systemically broken. Fix it. What I for a time lacked in looks I made up for with Game, Resources, and Frame. Three out of four is NOT good enough in 2022.
There are plenty by themselves in 2022. I deeply do not give a (darn) at the speed of light, being my own mental point of origin. I have a lifetime of self-actualizing activities ahead that never 'require' others to complete my satisfaction. Thinking otherwise is a plugged-in, self limiting belief that held me back. Increasing numbers of men are tired of the malarkey and opting-out. Look at marriage stats. Entitled attitudes and a socially sick narrative in potential dating partners increasingly elicits little but scorn and contempt from guys on their purpose.
In a nutshell, the process is a cycle at first sequential then self-sustaining: motives and beliefs, physicality, resources (money), upgrading relationships (intimate, familial, and business). If those aren't squared away you're not efficiently using your time (second paragraph). You will continue to fail. There are limitless resources in various media addressing how-to. Square those away, this question won't ever need to be asked again. Don't get mad, get even via results.
All that aside: if refusing to do the work to be a high value men, there is a cheat code: you can always fall back to interesting hobbies. Be captivating. Boring people attract no one. Mine were motorcycling and hiking, the latter cross-pollinating well with women in particular. Lot of hiking in the PacNW so limitless chances to interact assuming one has what I listed. Hiking can help develop muscles/physicality, which is attractive to women thus necessary. As for bikes: lot of out of shape rebels on big cruisers. They do attract a certain crowd and kind of women (and bros). I somewhat admire their "don't give a (darn)" attitude, though that's not how I roll.
It seems to me you have given up and no longer make much of an effort with your appearance and likely your over all health because it hadn't made any difference when you were trying.
If you think you are ugly other people will pick up on that. Your vibes have to project you are approachable.
Reinvent yourself. Consult an image specialist who can guide you in styles of clothing, hair, colors etc which look the best on you and give you some confidence coaching. This might include advice about facials, manicures, pedicures, dental procedures.
I always wonder what couples talk about or how they started out. I wish I could spy and watch and listen when couples meet, just to hear what they say so I could try that.
It's only weird to introverts. People who have trouble opening up and engaging in polite conversation with strangers.
It depends alot on your location.
I particularly hate the north east, or the "tri state area" its almost like there is like an unspoken rule you dont talk to so called strangers.
I used to live there and every single time I traveled or lived someplace else I was like wow people are so friendly. They actually talk to you.
Finally relocated, not so much to be around better people but for economics and climate.
Its like a whole different world. Every location I guess has its culture and IMO and from my experiences the north east US has the most rotten culture in the entire world. I did alot of traveling compared to most.
I will take a bet the OP is from the north east or a "metropolitan area"
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