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I can admit military life isn't for the fickle nor weak-minded..up or down the ladder to include the spouses.
I've seen great men & women succumb to natural laws of manhood (men simply were not meant to be monogamous; it's a foreign concept and relatively new concept as male mammals generally will not mate for life). NO- I don't suggest sharing sheets outside of your home. Simply providing a fact.
Finances will play a role; moreso financial literacy. Courses not taught in many institutions.
Sadly some women can't stomach being alone for ample time, odd as they're your early matured and supposedly more intelligent beings yet appear challenged to adhere to positive leisure activities.
As an Officer I've witnessed the tears from both sides of the aisle and there doesn't seem to be a true one size fits all divorce template; albeit, the precursors appear quite similar.
Not only do the marriages of young soldiers fail, but so do the older soldiers.
Its easy to understand the high school sweethearts getting married. It’s the lure of a secure job, getting to leave home, and visions of rainbows and unicorns. Then the wife isn’t equipped to be alone in a new place, money is tight, kids come along and she has no help....etc.
My sons have all been in the Army, in Rangers and SpecialOps. One has never married, and between the other two there are 6 wives. All the wives were smart, educated women. The marriages didn’t work for various reasons, but it boils down to the fact that soldiers are not easy to live with. The job comes first. Thankfully, all are retired now and seem to be in good relationships.
Up until the 90's people in the military actually divorced at a lower rate than the general population, then in the mid - late 90's it evened out but in the 2000's GI's actually have a higher divorce rate than the general population. What changed?
I remember when the bars outside of any military base would be packed with women on the days when the guys would finish basic training/boot camp especially in small military towns(towns that had more than one base or post). I used to work a civil service job that took me to a lot of bases.
You would think all the military benefits would take much of the stress out of a marriage, so what has changed?
The timing of this law is perfect on answering your question. One congressman introduced this law, it was quickly passed, and divorces in the military began increasing. Once this law was passed, spouses simply have to ride out just 10 years and they get partial retirement benefits for the rest of their lives. Better than public service. It’s not societal changes, deployments, or other previously mentioned reasons. Just ask lawyers that specialize in military divorces, it’s a strong draw to only require ten years to a lifetime of benefits.
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