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I don't get envious often; usually I'm pretty grateful for what I have and we've had our struggles.
I felt some envy towards something today and I've not experienced this in a while. Years actually. It's not about things; it's about some extended family and feeling I will not have that joy.
Nothing to do with the holidays.
Actually, I was having a pretty good day until I read the article I read. Very happy for the people involved but sad that my life will never encompass this.
If you are good at overcoming feelings like this, please respond.
Just angry at myself for feeling this way when there is so much misery in the world. I know.
I think the first thing you need to do is forgive yourself. It might not be all you need to do, but it's a good start.
It's human nature to be envious. As long as it doesn't consume your life (and it sounds like it doesn't....), it's just part of life. Have yourself a little pity party and move on. Everybody envies someone.
Since I am not sure to what is being said, it is hard to respond.
I've had two very nice weekends of staying in wonderful hotels, partying in great restaurants, flying first class on one leg, even seeing some TV briefly. Oh, wouldn't it be great if life was always like this!
Well, TV aside (because it is, often, a well created fantasy), one must remember that if things were great all the time, then they wouldn't seem great so much. There needs to be a balance and not so great is part of it.
Then, of course, there is the cost, that in dollars and that in other things, such as the nice way to make coffee (with all the assorted waste) and the simple way one makes coffee at home with not so much waste.
Land of envy production is a nice place to visit but do I really want to live there?
I used to be a terrible slave to envy and jealousy and so forth. I used to judge myself by others - and always found myself or my life or my possessions wanting. And I let this consume me to the point where I did not bother to try to better myself - because I knew I would never get to the standards of others.
I just woke up to this detrimental spiral of self destruction one day and decided to end it. I simply over night stopped judging myself by the standards set - or represented - by others.
Instead the only person I tried to be better than was the me from yesterday. And each day I attempted to better myself over the person I was the day before in some way. Intellectually - skills - fitness - or whatever.
And slowly and incrementally over time I started to be the one that heard - rather than said - things like "Where do you get the energy for that?" "How do you get so good at that" "Man I wish I had your life" and more.
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