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Originally Posted by NoExcuses
I don't look for the negative, but I recognize that it's there.
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Oh, how perfect. I need to remember to serve this one to my husband when he brings that tray to the table.
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Originally Posted by NoExcuses
I think, if anything, what YOU told him will have a greater impact. He will likely be less motivated to try to keep other kids safe since it seems that that is what he was doing by telling your daughter to not climb like that. It was something against the rules and she was breaking that rule in his eyes. IMO.
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AMOT (and my opinion too
). Or AMEN.
How sad that there are few children like that today. That was a child who clearly minded what his mother said and internalized a rule that is not all that idiotic after all. Just because he came to your daughter and informed her about "the rule" he learned from his mother doesn't make the child bossy or as you implied, "bad".
The slides clearly are not to be climbed up on.
The trouble is such little rules are no longer "clear" for everyone. We live in post-modern times which by definition means that people no longer agree on the rules. You have Mother 1 who teaches her kid that "slides are not to be climbed on" and you have Mother 2 who teaches her kid "slides CAN be climbed on" as well as "never let anyone else tell you what the rules are". This is understandable given that adults no longer agree on rules of behavior, values etc.
So much for the widely extolled benefits of "diversity of thought".
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Originally Posted by NoExcuses
That's a common trait of people who grew up during the depression. It's not all bad though, because you sure learn how to take care of yourself with a mother like that.
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I agree with your views most of the times, but if that's what Great Depressions do to people...make them insensitive as a rock, and once they're out of trouble, make them all focused on their own finally "fabulous life", all while sending their exhausted children to "fix it" on their own - then we need to get out of the present one (Depression), very, very fast.
There is a difference between "tough love" and just being a dumb, selfish and insensitive-as-a-rock moron.
Sleep deprivation from a colicky baby is terrible; and if a mother has even the remotest ability to offer some relief to her daughter in that respect, she SHOULD do it.
I "toughed it out when I was in your position" does not fly for me.