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I agree fully. I didn't mean that he should be locked up. I just think he needs to be taught more about what's appropriate and what's not.
Recently a high school friend of mine who had her first baby boy about the same time we had our twin boys e-mailed me with a question. She asked me why her boy was constantly "grabbing his junk" every time she took off his diaper! She seemed really concerned, but I told her our two had started doing the same thing, and not to worry, as it's normal. People really get concerned when it comes to boys and their "junk"
Recently a high school friend of mine who had her first baby boy about the same time we had our twin boys e-mailed me with a question. She asked me why her boy was constantly "grabbing his junk" every time she took off his diaper! She seemed really concerned, but I told her our two had started doing the same thing, and not to worry, as it's normal. People really get concerned when it comes to boys and their "junk"
Despite how hard it would be to hear such news, YES I would want to know if my child was doing such a thing. This young man needs help and quickly. It may seem somewhat ok since he is 12, but one day he will be 22 and a grown man doing this if it is not stopped. He has some serious problems and his parents need to know right away.
If he's twelve years old any help will be about nine or ten years too late. I'm a big fan of the idea that if a kid has a crappy foundation he'll be a crappy person for life, barring a few exceptions. If you take somebody and ruin their upbringing in the first two to four years of their life, you've pretty much ruined them for life.
OK, I'll post a male point of view here, because it sounds like an awful lot of overreacting!!
At age 12/13, boys are hitting puberty. I remember at that age, pretty much EVERY boy I knew had exposed himself to me and others. It wasn't some sexual predatory thing, more like boys discovering themselves. If this were a sign of future sexual issues, then all men would be in prison!
Even so, the boys need to understand that it's not appropriate, so I'd tell the parents, but not make a big deal of it, but try not to embarass the boy. Calling police or CPS is insane. Oh, and I recall several girls exposing their breasts to me as they were developing, so I'd say it's not only a male issue. Just kids hitting puberty and doing what they do.
I was going to say basically the same thing. I remember when i was that age and going through that phase too. At the time, as bizarre as it may seem; i remember it being almost like a status thing, or a pecking order without actually being that if that makes sense? It is hard to describe the feeling / emotion / motive involved in that behavior and easier to just say that that's just something that boys around that age do, it doesn't last long and is nothing to worry about really.
True. I'd just try to walk the line between freaking the kid out and explaining social norms. Calling the cops and putting a 12 year old on the sex offenders list just seems extreme to me.
Maybe not at 12, but that doesn't mean he won't end up there in future. My 2nd oldest brother IS a level 3, and he started as a middle schooler.
HIs early behavior gets imprinted and goes on into behavior. It's not a small issue.
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