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If something happened to your husband and you could no longer rely on his income, what's your plan?
Always has to be one negative Nancy with a comment lol. I'm sure OP can worry about that herself and doesn't need a stranger or anyone else, for that matter worrying
OP stay home as long as you can. Sorry, but the BEST years of my left were as a SAHM moms when my kids were little. If given the chance, in a heart beat, I would quit working and stay home if I could. I've only been working a desk 9-5 type job for a little over a year, and honestly hate it. But I work from home so get cleaning and house stuff done while I am working. When a woman works outside the home, it's 2 jobs, not 1 job, don't let anyone else tell you differently.
Back in my old neck of the woods in NY it was very common for women to SAH even when kids were in school. In my new area, it's 50/50. If you come across the ones that express their opinion without you asking, maybe they wish they had the opportunity to stay home, but don't or they must be projecting some area of their life they dislike
If something happened to your husband and you could no longer rely on his income, what's your plan?
Most of us have life insurance as well as other insurances. Some also have pre-nups. Many moms are flexible and willing to work part-time or full-time as needed. I’m not sure if you are suggesting the husband would divorce them and leave them penniless, become disabled, die, or lose his job. It really depends on an individual family’s situation how it would be handled, but most have a reasonable plan for the unexpected.
Most of us have life insurance as well as other insurances. Some also have pre-nups. Many moms are flexible and willing to work part-time or full-time as needed. I’m not sure if you are suggesting the husband would divorce them and leave them penniless, become disabled, die, or lose his job. It really depends on an individual family’s situation how it would be handled, but most have a reasonable plan for the unexpected.
All of those things. It's a very common scenario that women find themselves in when they let their skills lapse when raising kids. When I was staying home with my kids I always made sure to have a few clients on the side and worked toward a master's degree so we would never be vulnerable if our family's main source of income disappeared. I've seen the terrible results of those who don't.
My kids are adults now, but when they were in school, I worked from home part time on a freelance basis. Some days, I would work a full day and other days, I'd work only a couple hours or not at all. I never had to miss school plays or games or those random daytime events/parties, and if they were home sick, it was not stressful for me to have to rearrange my schedule for a doctor's appointment or just snuggling a feverish child. Also, I could get the grocery shopping and most of the household cleaning done during the week, so weekends were relaxing and not busy with a ton of errands and chores. It was definitely the best of both worlds.
And why is that different to when a man works outside the house?
I have to admit I wish I had your level of perceived importance
Seriously? If a wife is a stay-at-home mom, and she’s anything like me, she gets the housework and household chores done during the daytime. Then when her husband gets home, they can BOTH relax.
But it sounds like you’re assuming that a stay-at-home mother sits on her butt eating bonbons.
And yes, OF COURSE, if a wife works fulltime and her husband stays home with the kids, I would expect the same from him.
Seriously? If a wife is a stay-at-home mom, and she’s anything like me, she gets the housework and household chores done during the daytime. Then when her husband gets home, they can BOTH relax.
But it sounds like you’re assuming that a stay-at-home mother sits on her butt eating bonbons.
And yes, OF COURSE, if a wife works fulltime and her husband stays home with the kids, I would expect the same from him.
No, I’m wondering why if a woman has a job, she defaults to “2 jobs”, while a man remains at “1 job”.
Seems like your opinion of men and the family unit in general is from the 1800’s. I assume you’re stance is that women do all the housework… which isn’t always true
No, I’m wondering why if a woman has a job, she defaults to “2 jobs”, while a man remains at “1 job”.
Seems like your opinion of men and the family unit in general is from the 1800’s. I assume you’re stance is that women do all the housework… which isn’t always true
It's basically the same division of labor as in 1900.
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