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I'm having a baby shower next week, hosted by my husband's two friends. After a cousin betrayed me and left her off her wedding invite list (I was literally the only one), I'm having her uninvited from the shower. Later when I send birth announcements, I'll be addressing them to everyone in my family BUT her. Is this wrong or is this ultimately my decision? I don't want to be the gullible pushover who "chases" after people who obviously do not enjoy my company, so I'm saving my breath, effort, and my dignity. Opinions?
First baby? Take the high road. Or do whatever you want. There's no dignity in tit-for-tat or "un"-inviting.
Second baby. And I disagree about the dignity. I do not want people to think that they can treat me horribly, then have the amusement of knowing that I'll still "come back for more" by inviting them to a party/shower that they have no interest nor intention of attending anyway. Sorry but being a doormat is NOT dignifying. And I've obviously taken the high road (e.g., invited a cousin to my shower that I'm paying for myself, after she left me out of her wedding invite) but it backfired on me and just made me feel foolish afterwards. My prerogative to feel this way and to put my self preservation ahead of people who, as Mattie said, obviously do not care about me.
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Originally Posted by Mattie
Another thread about the same issue? You are obsessing over this. It's clear nobody in your family cares. Move on.
Then the better the reason not to send them a birth announcement, my dear.
It would probably be more worthwhile to focus on the birth of your baby and positive thought than all this negativity surrounding sticking it to your relatives. Negativity and preoccupation with people's slighting you in the past is the last thing you should be harboring as you prepare to welcome an infant to the world.
People have baby showers for the second baby? Really? Like accepting gifts and all. I had one for my second baby because I didn't have one for my first so my friends threw me one. But not a single one of my friends had a baby shower for their second baby.
People have baby showers for the second baby? Really? Like accepting gifts and all. I had one for my second baby because I didn't have one for my first so my friends threw me one. But not a single one of my friends had a baby shower for their second baby.
I never had a baby shower for my first either!...which is why I'm so bent on having one this time! Not for gifts but to finally get that sense of social belongingness and to get over the hurt from the first time my shower was jilted! The best way to "get over it" and "move on" is to have a better, positive experience!
It would probably be more worthwhile to focus on the birth of your baby and positive thought than all this negativity surrounding sticking it to your relatives. Negativity and preoccupation with people's slighting you in the past is the last thing you should be harboring as you prepare to welcome an infant to the world.
"the past" really? My cousin slighted me just yesterday!
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