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That guys care most about physical beauty is indisputable (consistent with both evolutionary theory and many studies). So, ladies, unless there's $$$$$$$$ in it (in which it'd be business and fair game), why even pursue romantic relationships, in which guys care most about your physical beauty, which would inevitably fade and which would inevitably be beaten by a more beautiful woman (no matter how beautiful you are)? Plus, even if we lived in a Peter Pan world where women stay looking aged 20 forever, it's just so superficial and pointless. Is it not better to stay single forever, where we don't have to worry about the men we are attached to leaving us or fantasizing about leaving us for more beautiful women? This wasn't an option for women just a century ago, but today it is.
We marry so we can take half their stuff when they dump us.
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I think the OP has a warped perception on men. Maybe due to relationship trauma in the past? Yes, at first, many men are physically attracted to a woman, but REAL love supersedes physical love. I mean, seriously...any man in his right mind looking for love isn't going to approach a woman that looks like June Shannon. I wouldn't.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and plenty of men love their wives. Men suffer more during a divorce.
That is from personal observation. Women are not barbie dolls, any more then men are Ken dolls. There are women who have those distorted expectations also. That isn't the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with because it is all about them and what they want. That isn't a relationship..Women don't want that and men don't want it either.
I have seen those nice versions of women dolls. They are more realistic and a big step up from a blow up doll. If that is what someone wants then it is a relatively inexpensive way to make that happen. There will be conflict but then you can just get a new one.
We marry so we can take half their stuff when they dump us.
Oh, and to get child support.
But you were already getting child support while married to him. It was automatically part of the package.You may have been contributing to the child support with your own earnings, or not, if you had no earnings. But he was already providing at least some of the child support. You don't win anything in that regard by divorcing.
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Don't generalize the Hollywood relationships (or perhaps your own weakness?) to an entire gender. When you have been married 43 years like me, or even 20, hopefully you will realize that the initial physical attraction at age 19-20 is just that, an initial attraction. With the right wife, there is far more than looks that keeps us happy together.
Because even men want to be loved and accepted. It starts with looks, but not always. Sometimes it really is chemistry between him and someone else first that leads to romance, not looks alone.
If all men want is beauty - why did Prince Charles leave beautiful, young Diana for Camilla? - who looks like a horse BTW -
Because there is more than beauty - there is love, kindness, intelligence, empathy, sex, cooking skills,
Beauty attracts but does not keep a man in the long run.
Actually, Prince Charles left Camilla for Diana. Camilla was Charle's ex girlfriend when he proposed to the young Diana. Why didn't he marry Camilla before the younger Diana? Charles had an affair with Camilla behind Diana - true - but he wanted Camilla as the "mistress" and only after his marriage with Diana became problematic, which took a while to discover since they hadn't really had the chance to see if they were compatible. Also, he was 13 years her senior.
Speaking of the "royal family", did you know why Prince William fell in love with Kate Middleton? They had been friends and never had he paid any romantic attention to her except one night when he saw her for a fashion event, dressed in a scanty clothing.
Haha cooking skills - i agree with you on that! Very important to men, just third in importance after physical beauty and bedroom skills!
And what is romantic "love". It makes no sense anyways. It's all about procreation anyways,so basically in the context of romantic "love", it's " i love you because you have big eyes, young skin, and big breasts! <3 Till wrinkles do us part!"
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