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Honestly, I think this fits better within Non-Romantic Relationships, but, to answer the question regardless, I wouldn't continue speaking to her. Pregnancy is no excuse for nastiness. Life is too short and I am too old to be putting up with such ridiculousness. The LL was kind to let your friend stay when he was in arrears (though depending on the circumstances and time, she may not have had much of a choice), but from where I stand that doesn't justify her behavior over the past however many months. As a single mother trying to make ends meet, wouldn't shock me if she relies greatly on your friend's rent payments, which is why she is blowing up his phone constantly trying to get him back. Maybe she'll learn with the next tenant.
Yeah but IMO him speaking to her after all she did would show weaknesson his part. If it were me, I'd have told her to go pound sand! No one's gonna treat ME in a disrespectful manner and I just "forgive and forget"; once you've done that to me, in the words of Kevin O'Leary: "You're dead to me!"
Your friend already has been the weak one. He was renting a room in a house. She was the adult, raising children, being the homeowner, trying to get him to follow rules/curtesy and he didn't even pay the rent.
I hope he's paid her everything that he owes and moved his things out so she can move on. If not, that's probably why she's still calling.
First off, it's none of your business. You aren't the tenant, you aren't the landlord. and as far as I can tell, you weren't even there, so I can't see any reason for you to get all indignant about someone else's drama. Why is it your business that she is pregnant, unless you are the father of the baby?
Why do you and your friend think that he should have been treated with great respect all the while he wasn't paying the rent? I'm surprised the landlord didn't kick him out right then.
As always, tenants get to move when they aren't happy, so if he wasn't happy, his best option was to give proper written notice and move out. Oh wait, he didn't give any notice at all, so he still owes 30 days rent. Didn't pay rent, didn't give notice, left owing money. I hope he doesn't ever need her for a landlord reference.
Did I say he WASN'T paying his rent??? I said he had a setback which put him temporarily in arrears - I further said that he had gotten caught up, meaning that he DID pay his back rent. So by the time of the "drama", he was caught up! Okay?
Now, he vented all this to me because it is his (and my) understanding that as a tenant, as long as you're
A) paying your rent
B) Not defacing/destroying anything on the property
C) Not creating noise, nuisance, or other thus disturbing others on the property
then you should have FREE REIGN to enjoy the place you call HOME.
And, granted I'm not the tenant, nor have I lived there, but I've met his ex-landlady. And briefly met her (married) friend. I detected some shady **** with her - call it gut instinct or whatever - but I almost immediately thought: "He [my buddy] can do better." He can live anywhere he wants - not to say he's wealthy, but he does okay.
Last we spoke (just a couple days ago), he said he's looking at possibly buying a small house. His credit is good, and I guess he can afford the down payment.
First off, it's none of your business. You aren't the tenant, you aren't the landlord. and as far as I can tell, you weren't even there, so I can't see any reason for you to get all indignant about someone else's drama. Why is it your business that she is pregnant, unless you are the father of the baby?
Why do you and your friend think that he should have been treated with great respect all the while he wasn't paying the rent? I'm surprised the landlord didn't kick him out right then.
As always, tenants get to move when they aren't happy, so if he wasn't happy, his best option was to give proper written notice and move out. Oh wait, he didn't give any notice at all, so he still owes 30 days rent. Didn't pay rent, didn't give notice, left owing money. I hope he doesn't ever need her for a landlord reference.
Oh man! I WISH I could rep you (again)! I especially like the 3rd paragraph where you sound just like Judge Millian on The People's Court.
Yeah but IMO him speaking to her after all she did would show weaknesson his part. If it were me, I'd have told her to go pound sand! No one's gonna treat ME in a disrespectful manner and I just "forgive and forget"; once you've done that to me, in the words of Kevin O'Leary: "You're dead to me!"
Such a simple solution. Let your friend vent. Then Send him these links. Then MYOB.
Did I say he WASN'T paying his rent??? I said he had a setback which put him temporarily in arrears - I further said that he had gotten caught up, meaning that he DID pay his back rent. So by the time of the "drama", he was caught up! Okay?
Now, he vented all this to me because it is his (and my) understanding that as a tenant, as long as you're
A) paying your rent
B) Not defacing/destroying anything on the property
C) Not creating noise, nuisance, or other thus disturbing others on the property
then you should have FREE REIGN to enjoy the place you call HOME.
And, granted I'm not the tenant, nor have I lived there, but I've met his ex-landlady. And briefly met her (married) friend. I detected some shady **** with her - call it gut instinct or whatever - but I almost immediately thought: "He [my buddy] can do better." He can live anywhere he wants - not to say he's wealthy, but he does okay.
Last we spoke (just a couple days ago), he said he's looking at possibly buying a small house. His credit is good, and I guess he can afford the down payment.
You sound like you have anger issues. Nothing in your own life to be outraged about so you are outraged for your friend? He's a big boy and can make his own choices.
The LL sounds ridiculous about the parking. If the street allows parking it shouldn't be her business. He vented to you, he moved, he can always block her from his phone if she's bothering him. It's over. No one needs to be in a state of drama about it.
Your friend already has been the weak one. He was renting a room in a house. She was the adult, raising children, being the homeowner, trying to get him to follow rules/curtesy and he didn't even pay the rent.
I hope he's paid her everything that he owes and moved his things out so she can move on. If not, that's probably why she's still calling.
Please read my last post. During the pandemic, MOST people had financial issues - he had a brief setback, but got back on his feet. And how was he NOT following rules? By parking his car out front? Where's he supposed to park it - in the living room???
Despite the setback, he was an overall good tenant - and as I also said, he and the landlady had known each other for years.
Hm, sounds like perhaps the attic room is an illegal conversion. Attics often need to be permitted as liveable spaces. Factor in the LL not wanting him parking on the main street near the house (side streets) makes it sound like she might now want the neighbors knowing there's an extra person in the attic.
Outside of that, if your friend has moved out you should move on too.
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