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I am wondering what people think about this. I work in a small office and me and the owner are the only men. The other 11 employees are women! I've always enjoyed going out to get lunch with coworkers in past jobs maybe once or twice a month, especially if there was a birthday or event or something, and wanted to continue that past time in this job. I have considered asking colleagues to get lunch with me when I run out for something, but due to the dynamics of our office and people's schedules, it would not be unusual for only one female coworker to be available to come with me. In my old jobs, it was never a problem if there was just one other male coworker and we just went grabbed a lunch the two of us, but I feel that with just a female coworker it may be inappropriate.
Is this inappropriate? I am married and most of these women are married too, but I feel a male and female coworkers going out alone to lunch can be viewed poorly.
Personally I never went out to lunch with coworkers but if they ordered in or we had a potluck I participated.
Ask your wife what she thinks about this it is her opinion that matters more than any other.
Personally I never went out to lunch with coworkers but if they ordered in or we had a potluck I participated.
Ask your wife what she thinks about this it is her opinion that matters more than any other.
This is my first time working in a smaller company. Usually always worked in large corporations or at least medium sized (100-200 employees). It was easy to get a nice group together to head out to lunch a couple times a month. Very nice, destressing, and fun, if you could afford it of course. No one was forced to go!
I usually bring a lunch, but every once in a while it's just nice to step out of the office and have a sit down meal.
Wife is neutral. Said it depends on the age and relationship status of the woman. (Ex, she wouldn't mind me going out with a 55 year old married woman but would mind me going out with a 25 year old married or single woman)
I'm probably not going to do this at my current job since people here rarely eat anyway, but it just got me thinking and I was curious to see what other people think.
If it's once in a while I'd see no problem with it, as long as it's a friendly, professional relationship on both your parts and nothing too personal gets discussed. If it's you constantly going out with the same woman and it starts to even remotely cross the line into something romantic, it definitely would not be okay. Not sure about asking your wife though. If it's once in a while I don't see the big deal but anything more would not be okay with me.
I am wondering what people think about this. I work in a small office and me and the owner are the only men. The other 11 employees are women! I've always enjoyed going out to get lunch with coworkers in past jobs maybe once or twice a month, especially if there was a birthday or event or something, and wanted to continue that past time in this job. I have considered asking colleagues to get lunch with me when I run out for something, but due to the dynamics of our office and people's schedules, it would not be unusual for only one female coworker to be available to come with me. In my old jobs, it was never a problem if there was just one other male coworker and we just went grabbed a lunch the two of us, but I feel that with just a female coworker it may be inappropriate.
Is this inappropriate? I am married and most of these women are married too, but I feel a male and female coworkers going out alone to lunch can be viewed poorly.
Well I am a female, and here is my perspective. I worked at a small company a few jobs ago, and my work BFF was a guy with a serious girlfriend. We went out to lunch like every day. If we didn't have lunch, we would get coffee. No biggie. We talked about all sorts of stuff. Sometimes we'd invite other coworkers. It was a mostly male place. We were the same age and had similar interests. It was logical to hang out.
When I met his girlfriend, she was awesome. Just the sort of person I'd be good friends with. She had no issues either, in fact he always told me he wanted me to meet her because we'd get along well.
I also went out with married coworkers. Though I haven't gone as often just because we didn't have the right chemistry or schedules so it wasn't as often.
I have always gone out alone with male coworkers for lunch if we connected. I generally put you in an attracted or not attracted box and have no issues being friends with men! If we get along well we should hang out. I have behaved the same with taken or single male coworkers
If your wife has no issues, don't worry about it! You guys are mature adults.
The key is to ask the entire group, not one particular person and then go to a very public non-romantic restaurant.
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