How to handle situation with a recruiter..

[strawberrykiki]

I'm glad you decided to let him know you're not interested. You shouldn't feel bad.



I've gotten two jobs through recruiters so they can be helpful in some situations. But I also get a lot of spam from stuff that isn't something I would be remotely interested in or even in my area.

[Disgustedman]

Originally Posted by bell235

Should I tell him this now? should i say "feel free to send me jobs but to be honest, I had seen the job with XYZ company on my own and that's really why i responded" or something along those lines...? I'm definitely overthinking this but he has sent me probably 5 job openings that sound great but are just not for me because of really picky reasons - long commute, startup, managing people, too big, etc, etc. so I don't know what to say to him... now i'm all involved with him and i just want to go back to looking on my own.

"Here's what my min desires are and my max desires. I won't settle for less"

If the recruiter gets butthurt (I'm betting they won't) but they may realize that you are not one to jump for anything and everything.

Personally I have responded to a few of the lower wage recruiters and let them know what I make now and that alone usually scares them off...

[CollieMan]

Originally Posted by bell235

He did ask me... he did a whole intake with me. I said "I don't want to commute longer than X amount of minutes" but then he sends me a job that is an hour away lol. So I responded "unfortunately that's too long of a commute for me" and he said "ok no problem"....


Then he sends me a job that pays the exact same as i make now but its also 45 minutes away... and why would i change my 6 mile commute for no additional pay? so again, i have to turn it down. I just feel silly to continue turning things down.


i guess what i'm saying is - i think he thinks i'm more desperate than i am...

Don't worry about that. You're just a candidate in his pipeline. When he sees a match come up, he sends it over. Maybe you moved and didn't tell him? Maybe you had a really crappy new boss come in and now you want out? Maybe they took your stapler?

He's doing his job.