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Originally Posted by Dark of the Moon
Even though I was adopted within the family, I'm very much like my birth siblings in personality, sense of humor, education level, etc. -- and much LESS like my adoptive siblings. I'm also VERY much like my birth mother in many, many ways.
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I'm very much like my birth family too. I think we have a similar way of looking at things that I don't share with my afamily, as much as I love them. As for my bmother, I've never met her as she passed away young but hearing about her, I can see parallels with my own life, eg in regards to the paths we've chosen. . Before anyone says "wishful thinking", the relatives have said I'm similar in other ways and I am not so sure I am in those particular ways. I think I sound more like my grandmother. Then again, that might just be because the relatives are rather less complimentary about bgrandmother than about bmother and I'm more able to accept that I share faults rather than good points with them.
I also just feel comfortable with them in many ways and I felt that even when I first met them. I just feel that I "get" them and that they "get" me in a way that my afamily doesn't.
I do also sense a lot of the underlying feelings and currents - a bit like reading a book where there are a lot of things said unsaid which can often give the book a lot more depth than if it had all been spelt out. In my case, they aren't unpleasant because I sense that there was a lot of love for my bmother and I sense that some of that goodwill towards her makes it easier for them to accept me. Having said that, I hope they like me for myself as well.
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