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There will always be differing opinions on this, and that's all they are - opinions. There is a wide spectrum of what is considered normal or acceptable. It depends on the parents, the grandparents, if the baby is nursing or not, cosleeping, or not... do you plan to leave for a weekend once, or do you plan to take 2 week trips w/o the kids quarterly? The OP has found plenty of support. She's not doing anything wrong. You guys are going to get the thread shut down.
They say it differently in Kanada, Canada. Eh?
On topic:
1. You can't be a grandmother or grandfather, without first having been a mother or father. It's a genetic thing
2. If you were a good mom, or dad (or both) then it stands to reason you'll probably be a suitable overnight substitute mom/dad once you're a grandmom/dad.
3. The baby is young enough at 4 months that she won't understand "tomorrow," let alone "3 days." I wouldn't worry about her being traumatized by the absence of her parents for a few days, as long as she is in the loving company of her grandparents during that time. They managed to raise the OP, afterall.
4. "Grandparents" doesn't equate with "90 years old and can't carry a tune, let alone an infant."
They say it differently in Kanada, Canada. Eh?
On topic:
1. You can't be a grandmother or grandfather, without first having been a mother or father. It's a genetic thing
2. If you were a good mom, or dad (or both) then it stands to reason you'll probably be a suitable overnight substitute mom/dad once you're a grandmom/dad.
3. The baby is young enough at 4 months that she won't understand "tomorrow," let alone "3 days." I wouldn't worry about her being traumatized by the absence of her parents for a few days, as long as she is in the loving company of her grandparents during that time. They managed to raise the OP, afterall.
4. "Grandparents" doesn't equate with "90 years old and can't carry a tune, let alone an infant."
My kids were very young when my Mom died but she was the worlds best Nana. She adored children and loved my boys to pieces as they did her. She cherished every moment she had with them and as it turned out their moments were cut way too short.
I couldn't be happier that she had the time with them that she did and I didn't deny her that because my kids couldn't leave my side.
There is nothing wrong in letting the grandparents take care of the newborn. Does it really have to be overnight?. Are you really doing the 60 + year old grandmother a favor by having her watch a newborn overnight? Now the OP states that her newborn sleeps all night which is not the norm for sure. Adult children need to have some consideration for their parents.
There is nothing wrong in letting the grandparents take care of the newborn. Does it really have to be overnight?. Are you really doing the 60 + year old grandmother a favor by having her watch a newborn overnight? Now the OP states that her newborn sleeps all night which is not the norm for sure. Adult children need to have some consideration for their parents.
If you've never done it, then by your own logic, you are not qualified to comment.
There is nothing wrong in letting the grandparents take care of the newborn. Does it really have to be overnight?. Are you really doing the 60 + year old grandmother a favor by having her watch a newborn overnight? Now the OP states that her newborn sleeps all night which is not the norm for sure. Adult children need to have some consideration for their parents.
Not all grandparents are 60+. And not all 60+ are frail and incapable.
There is nothing wrong in letting the grandparents take care of the newborn. Does it really have to be overnight?. Are you really doing the 60 + year old grandmother a favor by having her watch a newborn overnight? Now the OP states that her newborn sleeps all night which is not the norm for sure. Adult children need to have some consideration for their parents.
Now you're changing your tune to being concerned about the grandparents. My guess is the grandparents are in their 50s, given the age of the parents. Even if in their early 60s, they're young enough to take care of a baby for 1-3 days and nights.
My ex-inlaws watched my not quite month old daughter for three days while we attended my uncle's funeral out of state. We took our sons with us because they had tendency to become demon children when they were left with their grandparents for extended periods of time.
Not all grandparents are 60+. And not all 60+ are frail and incapable.
It was just an example Surely, you're not suggesting that I think all grandparents are in their 60's. Now that wouldn't be very smart.
Many grandparents are not going to feel comfortable telling their child that no they cannot watch the baby overnight. The adult children are not showing genuine concern for their own parents by doing this to them.
Leaving the baby overnight because of an emergency is one thing. Leaving a newborn overnight because you feel like taking a vacation is quite another.
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Surely, you're not suggesting that I think all grandparents are in their 60's. Now that wouldn't be very smart.
