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I've seen on a lot of threads here that a lot of people seem to be pressured by their parents to have kids (especially women). Their parents seem to be dead set on being grandparents.
I can understand wanting to be a grandparent, but pressuring your kids relentlessly to become a parent before they're ready, doesn't make sense.
I would assume a certain percentage want to get even with their kids. Watch as they struggle with their own children, as they struggled with them.
As my own kids are getting ready to fly out of the nest, the idea of little kids (you know the ones who actually think adults know something and actually like spending time with adults ) that I can borrow and return when I'm tired of them sounds fantastic. I don't want to get back at my kids. I want to get back the most enjoyable time in their lives. When they were little and fun. Teenagers are too much work. I'm convinced if they were born teenagers, the human race would die out!!!
I think we all want part of us to continue on as well. If my kids don't have kids, my legacy dies with them. That said, if either one of them decides not to have kids, I'm fine with that but I will be disappointed if they both decide not to have kids. Interestingly, I don't really care if their kids are their biological children. It's not a genetic legacy I'm after. It's passing down family values and traditions. It's being remembered after I'm gone. When I visit my mom's grave, I wonder about the graves that are overgrown. It's sad that no one thinks of them anymore. At least not enough to pull the weeds from around the grave markers. Then again, I doubt I'll care when I'm dead...
Last edited by Ivorytickler; 06-05-2011 at 01:02 PM..
After the children grow up you do miss the little ones. Wait until you have grandchildren and you will know. Want me to baby sit them? No problem! When I was a child I was not that close to my grandparents as they lived far away. I hope to be closer to my grandchildren. Does this belong on the parenting forum?
I've seen on a lot of threads here that a lot of people seem to be pressured by their parents to have kids (especially women). Their parents seem to be dead set on being grandparents.
But I have to ask: why? I can understand wanting kids, I myself would like kids (but not for a long time!!). But I'm pretty indifferent about grandkids.
So what's the deal? You'd think the whole "gotta have little ones" thing would go away after you've produced your litter.
Ask this question when you've already raised your kids....it'll be easier for you to understand. You won't be indifferent when you're older and the sweet little innocent darlings, who know nothing of headgames, but only speak the honest truth come a visiting.
I MUST have my own grandkids! After all, I could go to jail for scaring someone elses grandkids with my dentures,drawing scary pictures around my bellybutton or going into thier room at night to tell them scary stories!
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It's more of a female thing. I couldn't care less, but my wife is dying for grandkids and has been since our oldest daughter got married. I have managed to keep her from pressuring and that has worked, and now
we have one coming in the fall. For her it's that she misses babies, and
looks forward to being able to play with them and then give them back. And yes, there is some of that desire to see the kids learn what they were like for us.
I've seen on a lot of threads here that a lot of people seem to be pressured by their parents to have kids (especially women). Their parents seem to be dead set on being grandparents.
But I have to ask: why? I can understand wanting kids, I myself would like kids (but not for a long time!!). But I'm pretty indifferent about grandkids.
So what's the deal? You'd think the whole "gotta have little ones" thing would go away after you've produced your litter.
Everything in life is about frame of reference.
Meaning what your point of view happens to be and what stage of life your are in.
Things that are important at 20 aren't always the same things that are important at say 50........
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) that I can borrow and return when I'm tired of them sounds fantastic. I don't want to get back at my kids. I want to get back the most enjoyable time in their lives. When they were little and fun. Teenagers are too much work. I'm convinced if they were born teenagers, the human race would die out!!!
