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C-section is surgery. They don't allow spectators. It's dangerous and increases the risk of infection. Usually the mother gets, maximum, one person with her, and it needs to be someone who can help her. They take the baby out of the room right afterward - once again, it's not about the baby at that point. The baby doesn't hang around for everyone to ooh and aah at in the surgical suite. He's whisked out of there right away. There is no point to anyone being there except for the mother.
I know what it is. I've had 2 of them. My husband was there for both and cut the cord and watched the nurses clean them up a little. He got to be there for the birth of both of his children. I think that's a pretty big reason to be in the room.
Of course if the father is combative or causing problems, then the mom should be able to exclude him. Most of the time, that isn't the case.
Yes it's absolutely up to the mother, as it should be.
However, lets not pretend that all mothers become saints just because they are about to deliver a baby.
There are going to be some who keep the father out of the delivery room as some kind of power play and/or out of spite - not because they're embarrassed or uncomfortable - but because they can.
A unpopular sentiment I'm sure, but reality all the same.
I would urge anyone thinking of playing this kind of game with their future child's parent to quit it for the sake of the child. You never know how things are going to play out. If you're making these kind of major decisions as a way to get even because you picked someone you really don't like to sleep with and now you're having a child that is BOTH of yours - keep in mind that for the sake of the father/child bond it might well be beneficial for the baby to put aside your grievances with the other parent and think about more than what you want in that moment.
I think the birth of said baby is a really good time to start. This is a concept that goes beyond the delivery room really and addresses how you're going to interact with the other person going forward.
If you're mature enough to bring up a child then I would hope you're mature enough to handle a potentially uncomfortable situation, and do something bigger than yourself. There's going to be a lot of that in your future. That goes for both parents, btw.
I know what it is. I've had 2 of them. My husband was there for both and cut the cord and watched the nurses clean them up a little. He got to be there for the birth of both of his children. I think that's a pretty big reason to be in the room.
Of course if the father is combative or causing problems, then the mom should be able to exclude him. Most of the time, that isn't the case.
I didn't say he shouldn't be allowed to be there - mine was there, too. I was responding to someone who felt that the father had a right to be there regardless of what the mother or the doctors thought. My husband didn't get to do anything, though, and I don't think he wanted to. By the time they were done with my son and we actually got to look at him, I pretty much passed out and my husband was removed from the room - with baby - and sent to recovery to wait for me.
I didn't say he shouldn't be allowed to be there - mine was there, too. I was responding to someone who felt that the father had a right to be there regardless of what the mother or the doctors thought. My husband didn't get to do anything, though, and I don't think he wanted to. By the time they were done with my son and we actually got to look at him, I pretty much passed out and my husband was removed from the room - with baby - and sent to recovery to wait for me.
You quoted my post, so I assume you were responding to me. I said no such thing.
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I know what it is. I've had 2 of them. My husband was there for both and cut the cord and watched the nurses clean them up a little. He got to be there for the birth of both of his children. I think that's a pretty big reason to be in the room. 
