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It's pretty clear from all medical literature that less stress during labour makes for a safer delivery, so it's a no brainer. It might suck for the man, but it is about the safest delivery for the baby, which means as little stress as possible for the one birthing.
My mother talked about her two pregnancies many years ago. Both my sister and I were born during the 1950's which was before all this "openness stuff" caught on. One day we talked, my sister seemed very eager to know where my father was during her deliveries.
The answer was out in the waiting room, waiting. That's exactly where Mom wanted him and that's exactly where he wanted to be.
The birth of a child is exactly that, a birth. Some people don't look at it as "theater" to be filmed and observed by the whole world. There are some families that want to bring all kinds of extended relatives to a birth now. Half of them probably have a cell phone or digital camera with them to record this "blessed event". If a mother really wants that and her OB is willing to agree to it, than that's her business. However, I can very easily see why other mothers choose to avoid this kind of a circus.
The truth is that I don't particularly care for a lot of modern cultural phenomena (really big weddings, huge baby showers). I think old ways weren't perfect, but probably served many a whole lot better. Its a very personal choice.
Good. If the couple isn't together, it's probably for a reason. I've heard from many women how they don't want their abusive ex to be in the delivery room, but he'll probably show up anyway. This article isn't for healthy, happy couples.
My mother talked about her two pregnancies many years ago. Both my sister and I were born during the 1950's which was before all this "openness stuff" caught on. One day we talked, my sister seemed very eager to know where my father was during her deliveries.
The answer was out in the waiting room, waiting. That's exactly where Mom wanted him and that's exactly where he wanted to be.
The birth of a child is exactly that, a birth. Some people don't look at it as "theater" to be filmed and observed by the whole world. There are some families that want to bring all kinds of extended relatives to a birth now. Half of them probably have a cell phone or digital camera with them to record this "blessed event". If a mother really wants that and her OB is willing to agree to it, than that's her business. However, I can very easily see why other mothers choose to avoid this kind of a circus.
The truth is that I don't particularly care for a lot of modern cultural phenomena (really big weddings, huge baby showers). I think old ways weren't perfect, but probably served many a whole lot better. Its a very personal choice.
I don't know how I would have managed the labor and birth of my daughter without my husband by my side. I needed him and that man stepped up to the plate. I did not need the doctor for 95% of it (9am-1:30am). My doctor wasn't even there, but an on call doc. I feel bad for women who have to go it alone, nor do I think fathers as a rule should be dismissed, but this ruling is about what's good for her and the baby first and foremost.
My mother talked about her two pregnancies many years ago. Both my sister and I were born during the 1950's which was before all this "openness stuff" caught on. One day we talked, my sister seemed very eager to know where my father was during her deliveries.
The answer was out in the waiting room, waiting. That's exactly where Mom wanted him and that's exactly where he wanted to be.
That's where my father was when my siblings and I were born. When I was having my first child, my father would wander into the labor room every hour or so. The nurse tried to swoosh him away, but I didn't mind him wandering into the room. It wasn't like he was hanging out there looking. He was just checking in to see if everything was okay and he'd wander back out. As the day wore on, it became very obvious he was spending his time at in a bar instead of the waiting room. I didn't mind. I was glad he was there. My mother died while I was pregnant, and my first child was born on their wedding anniversary. It had to be a very difficult day for him.
In a relationship situtation like this the no vote should always win out.
Dont like it dudes? Keep your Anthony Wiener in your pants and negotiate that before you stick it in.
Yeah I'm a dude. My wife and I talked about all these things before she got preggo with our first child. She wanted me and only me there for the birth of each of our children. Had she not wanted me there I would have been just as happy outside smoking a cigar with Pops.
I told my wife about this thread. She said that when she gave birth to her kids each time her husband would want to go get a snack. She said she told him in "no uncertain terms" that he was leaving over her dead body and that he was going into that delivery room with her whether he liked it or not.
Only time i can see the father not being welcome is if it was some sort of abusive relationship. To just say "i dont want you here" doesnt give a very supportive message to the Dad. Why cant we just simply ask the father if he wants to be in the room and if he says no then dont get all upset about it?
My spouse was there and he helped emotionally - sure - but when things got real - I wanted medical personnel - trained and equipped. No joke. If he got in the way (especially of my epidural) it would have gotten ugly quick.
Point being - it is great to have a partner - if you want one there - but what is essential is the patient's medical needs.
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