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I have plenty of time…but my husband is already in his 40s. Tbh, my husband is open to what I want to do….BUT I know he wouldn’t want to be a new dad in his 50s. The longer it goes, the more locked we probably will become. AND I never said that older parents make bad parents ofc…but I’m so sorry about yours.
Thank you….I explained in my previous post^^ the hard time I was having connecting with women my age who are in the same spot. Most every one I know on my social media that is around my age…late 20s & early 30s…has had a baby or wants a baby. Some know they don’t want one. BUT my situation is more unique among married women my age…especially because my husband is older & so we can’t just do a wait & see thing. I know that you disagree^^ but I really do feel like we have to decide soon or put it to rest. This is all because of my pregnancy scare.
I don’t want to “roll the dice” when it comes to such a serious decision tho.
How about this...
Both you and your husband get checked out, and make sure both of you have working plumbing, adequate swimmers...that kind of thing. Get that out of the way...because let's say you find out he has a low sperm count...and the likelihood of fathering a child is pretty nil. well then, your decision has been made for you. And you can be happy and content that in actuality, the decision has already been made...and go back to your child free happy days.
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How about this...
Both you and your husband get checked out, and make sure both of you have working plumbing, adequate swimmers...that kind of thing. Get that out of the way...because let's say you find out he has a low sperm count...and the likelihood of fathering a child is pretty nil. well then, your decision has been made for you. And you can be happy and content that in actuality, the decision has already been made...and go back to your child free happy days.
I’m in health care. IVF & fertility clinics won’t look at you if you haven’t been trying to conceive for 6 months to a year. We are both healthy so there is no reason to think we couldn’t conceive & have a healthy baby. Matter of fact, he fathered a baby when he was in a previous relationship but she didn’t survive because of the mother’s health & a car accident.
If I didn’t get pregnant, then I don’t get pregnant. Like you were saying, it would be a see what happens or if it’s meant to be thing because I know we would be happy on either side. That’s what makes it hard to decide.
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I’m in health care. IVF & fertility clinics won’t look at you if you haven’t been trying to conceive for 6 months to a year. We are both healthy so there is no reason to think we couldn’t conceive & have a healthy baby. Matter of fact, he fathered a baby when he was in a previous relationship but she didn’t survive because of the mother’s health & a car accident.
If I didn’t get pregnant, then I don’t get pregnant. Like you were saying, it would be a see what happens or if it’s meant to be thing because I know we would be happy on either side. That’s what makes it hard to decide.
Oh gosh...you did say that. Sorry.
So...don't decide. Just get off birth control. :-)
You know...what you COULD do is get off of birth control...and see what happens. It'd be kind of a "If it's meant to be" kind of thing.
Soooooo dangerous and passive-aggressive. How about making a mature decision or saying "If I'm not POSITIVE I want a baby then I'll not chance screwing up a kid."?
Hopefully you know by now if kids will be in your future or if you'll be child free but then again, it may take a year or more for your hormones to go back to normal if you've been taking birth control for a long time, as you probably know.
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Soooooo dangerous and passive-aggressive. How about making a mature decision or saying "If I'm not POSITIVE I want a baby then I'll not chance screwing up a kid."?
ITA it’s a decision that should be taken super seriously. BUT…I took her post to mean as long as we would be happy with either outcome, stop birth control for awhile before my husband gets older & see what happens. If I get pregnant, wonderful. If I don’t, that’s Ok too. We know we wouldn’t go through fertility treatments or anything like that. We are just as happy with things as they are. So like a Viking would say, it is up to the gods.
That’s not being passive aggressive or taking a chance on “screwing up” a baby. Passive aggressive is when somebody doesn’t address negative feelings so it comes out in their behavior.
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Nice to see you posting!
Hopefully you know by now if kids will be in your future or if you'll be child free but then again, it may take a year or more for your hormones to go back to normal if you've been taking birth control for a long time, as you probably know.
Just an update to my thread…I’m pregnant! My husband & I are super happy….we are due Dec. 3rd!
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My husband & I are super happy….we are due Dec. 3rd!
