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Exactly what I was going to suggest. Give them a "fake" candle that runs off electricity or batteries (along with a supply of batteries). Or maybe a small pretty lamp.
When it comes to my safety, I don't play. Since telling them nicely didn't work, I'd go to the LL on this matter. This is assuming that they are not the LLs themselves (or relatives of the LL), in which case I'd be looking into options to move if possible and financially feasible.
On a side note, why don't you have the key to the living room, which I imagine is part of a shared common area?
Exactly what I was going to suggest. Give them a "fake" candle that runs off electricity or batteries (along with a supply of batteries). Or maybe a small pretty lamp.
Many times, how a request is presented makes all the difference. I'd increase the odds that something like this would be acceptable by presenting the electric candle along with a card, note, maybe some flowers. Acknowledge their loss and their desire to carry out their personal expression of mourning. Explain that while you feel the open flame is a safety issue, you also want to respect what they're going through. So, you found an inoffensive but realistic compromise. They may appreciate your effort and agree to use the safer lamp.
I moved into a new place a couple of months ago. Recently my roomates (who are related to eachother) lost an important member of the family and for the past week they have been leaving a candle lit in the living room all night while they are asleep. The room is locked so I am not able to put it out myself. I have brought this up to them and they are telling me I'm over-reacting and continue leaving the candle lit.
It's a real awkward situation, any advice would help...thank you.
What does your lease say about candles or open flames?
My own lease forbids using candles. My landlord is a retired firefighter, he's seen the damage candles can do.
Read your lease, and then notify your landlord if it says candles are not allowed. I lost my 1st apartment to a building fire, it's not a fun thing to go through.
it always amazes me how there are such dumb, stupid people in this world.
who in thier right mind would go to bed with a candle still lit?????
the hell with this religious crap, a candle can and has started deadly fires before, why take the chance.
Ok so I took the advice of many people here and ordered a flameless candle off of amazon. I left it in the kitchen burning with a note saying that I respect them and their choices and to please accept this gift to demonstrate that but they basically told me to go to hell, I was over reacting and if I didn't like it I could move. SMH
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