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Ok so I took the advice of many people here and ordered a flameless candle off of amazon. I left it in the kitchen burning with a note saying that I respect them and their choices and to please accept this gift to demonstrate that but they basically told me to go to hell, I was over reacting and if I didn't like it I could move. SMH
I would have given it to them in person. People can misinterpret notes like that, and it's harder to get bent out of shape at someone who comes to you in humility and wants to work with you.
That said, I would let the landlord know at this point.
ok, to prove a point, leave a roll of paper towels very near the candle, let it start a fire, maybe they will get the idea, ok, maybe you should not do that....
ok, better to just move, they sound like idiots anyway.
I would have given it to them in person. People can misinterpret notes like that, and it's harder to get bent out of shape at someone who comes to you in humility and wants to work with you.
That said, I would let the landlord know at this point.
Absolutely contact the landlord at this point… Call and follow up with an email explaining exactly what’s been going on and how the OP tried to rectify it. If one of my tenants contacted me in regards to a roommate leaving a candle lit unsupervised… Heads would be rolling.
I would have given it to them in person. People can misinterpret notes like that, and it's harder to get bent out of shape at someone who comes to you in humility and wants to work with you.
That said, I would let the landlord know at this point.
Agree. Sure, presenting it in person might have made a difference but there's really no guarantee. You did make a good will effort OP. You're certainly not the bad guy here for multiple reasons. Their response was certainly ungracious and made them look spiteful as well as stupid. Don't blame you for escalating the issue. Good luck!
Last edited by Parnassia; 05-27-2022 at 03:34 PM..
I'm not generally in favor of complaining to the landlord when you can't gt along with your roommates, but maybe you should say something to the landlord, since it is his house that is at risk.
Keep your insurance paid up and test the smoke detectors regularly to make sure they are working.
For those of you who are tenants and love to leave candles burning, be aware that you might have some painting costs taken out of your deposit when you move out. Burning candles deposits soot and a sort of waxy coating on paint and then the room has to be repainted. (some of those heated air scent things also do this)
Perhaps the lease bans candles. I stopped burning them because they left soot on the ceiling.
Actually, it does. Others have asked the OP what their lease says about candles. She was just stating hers doesn’t allow it.
This is the second time I've seen that poster make such a comment in a thread in this forum about a comment that clearly related to the OP and topic at hand.
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