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Originally Posted by silibran
We did move to be close to our grown kids, and had planned to do so eventually, even before we knew we'd be grandparents. Two of our kids live fairly close to each other, so it was easy to decide to move to that area. When our two grands arrived, we knew we really wanted to live close. Luckily for us, our kids wanted us to move. I have never, ever felt that they wish we had not moved closer. I've posted in other places that it is a joy to see the grands frequently, and I treasure these times.
There is another factor in the move though. We didn't want to age far away from our kids. If one of us got sick, our kids would be a long plane ride away from us. It would be hard for them to give us any assistance. And that cuts both ways. We help out with the grands from time to time, so this would be impossible if we had not moved.
If your kids are unenthusiastic about your moving closer, and if you can't be sure they won't move to another place, then I can see that moving might not be the best thing to do. In our case it most definitely is the best thing.
My kids loved their grandmother into their adult years, by the way.
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This post mirrors our experience as a family, except in our case the kids either got out of the military and moved to this area or requested an assignment within an hours' drive to be closer to us, as I did when my kids were young and we moved to Texas to be closer to my parents. Either way, whichever party moves, it can be wonderful for a family to grow up with those multigenerational relationships in their lives.
My kids got to grow up around my grandmother, who they all loved passionately (and who loved them back just as fiercely!). She lived till they were all in their teens so they are all lucky enough to have lots of memories of this loving, beautiful woman.
She is my role model when it comes to fostering a loving relationship with my grandkids. We are blessed to have three of them living within an hours' drive and we see them often. The other four have an Air Force officer for a daddy and move every few years and unfortunately are in Guam right now, but even at this distance we are able to Skype, and my daughter makes sure that they acknowledge every gift and letter with a thank you letter of their own. We love to get those sweet packets of letters, pictures they've drawn, school papers they want to show off...our six year old grandson even sent my husband $2 a few weeks ago, apparently because he was impressed when his "Tex" sent him a $20 bill for Valentine's Day. My husband said, "Oh wow, he shouldn't have sent me this! I need to send it back!" and I said, "Don't you dare...he thinks this is what men are supposed to do! He's being generous with you and all you need to do is send him a thank you letter."
If multiple generations get along well, it can be wonderful living close by. My elderly parents are still alive and kicking and my daughters make a special point to get their kids involved in their lives and to build those relationships.