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My spouse and I will have ashes thrown in the ocean. My in-laws chose to have then scattered in a river, others in the woods. There are memorial gardens where they can be scattered. It seems you really don't have any interest in a cemetery. If he was in the Navy, they will bury them at sea for no cost.
Did your father indicate any wishes about what was to be done with them? The whole point of my father desiring cremation was to avoid taking up pointless space in the ground, so what did my stepmother do? Had his ashes buried in a cemetery. (I got along fine with her, so this isn't some evil stepmother complaint, just that as his wife, she had final say.) When she died, her daughter had her ashes buried next to him, so I suspect this was why she chose to do so with my dad's.
You know what was crazy? My dad "made" a TON of ashes. I mean, they just kept on going, ya know? And his urn was super heavy. My mom barely made any ashes at all, and my husband, who was bigger/taller than my dad, was just sort of medium when it came to the ashes. I thought that was sort of surprising.
And my mom, while she wasn't overweight, was also not underweight, and she was tall. I was really surprised at the difference in the weight of the ashes.
Before my mother passed she said she wanted to be cremated and to take her ashes out to the Gulf and scatter with all the kids around. I didn't live in the town she passed in, but the place told me they would hold them for awhile.
Well, about 6 months later we moved home, and I went to pick them up. Since we were staying in temporary housing while a house was being built, I just left them in the back of my car.
I told my siblings and they thought it was perfect! She was the consummate backseat driver. She would have found it funny and practical. We eventually scattered them per her request.
You will figure it out...
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