First Time Mom BORED at home (maternity, ideas, baby, daughter)
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Is it normal to feel bored and lonely now ?
My husband and I have been sharing a car because my car is too small to fit our LO’s car seat + stroller and it’s starting to have mechanical problems.
My husband works m-Fri second shift & he drives the car to work, he’s gone majority of the day.
So I’ve been stuck in the house for the past 2months with the baby. Just watching Netflix and caring for the lo.
Im not depressed yet but I’m going to be if I stay like this until December. (When my maternity leave is over)
We can’t buy another car right now since I won’t be getting paid for the last 4months of my leave and we’re saving to buy a house soon.
My neighborhood isn’t the best neighborhood to go take a stroll through with a baby. Also family and friends don’t live close by to visit me.
My baby is too young to take the public transportation with so I’m stuck in an apartment waiting for the weekend to come every week just to get some fresh air at a park or visit family/friends.
Are there any other mothers dealing with the same issues(I doubt it tho). What are you FTM’s doing while caring for the lo?
Yes, it's normal to feel "bored and lonely" and long for adult conversation. However, one thing that helped me get past all that was reminding myself that our daughter wouldn't be this little forever. Thus, I resolved to make the most of my time with her and appreciate all the milestones she hit. Looking back at that time in her life, I have no regrets when it came to being at home with her.
Yes, it's normal to feel "bored and lonely" and long for adult conversation. However, one thing that helped me get past all that was reminding myself that our daughter wouldn't be this little forever. Thus, I resolved to make the most of my time with her and appreciate all the milestones she hit. Looking back at that time in her life, I have no regrets when it came to being at home with her.
Thank you for giving me that way to think of it.
I just feel like maybe I should be doing more or something else also with my time while on leave.
OP, I noticed that you mentioned your husband is on 2nd shift. Are you able to do anything in the morning before he leaves on his shift? I had a friend who joined a mommy group at the library, which IIRC was in the morning. It helped her gain some friends/connections while she was staying at home.
My sister was in the same situation as you and she was absolutely miserable. Initially they had a tiny apartment until the baby was about 4 months old. She wasn’t even able to pursue any hobbies when the baby was sleeping because there wasn’t even anywhere quiet he could go. I think it improved when they moved to a larger place, even though that was basically in winter when the weather is pretty awful where they live. They had (and still have) just the one car. My sister is into home-based hobbies like sewing, knitting, etc that are quiet enough to do if you have more than one room and the baby is napping.
So you can have all morning to take the car and do some things outside the house on your own.
This is a great idea!
When my husband worked 9 to 5, I would go out after dinner. Most times I ran into the supermarket for a couple of item - just to get out of the house! On the way home, I took the longest possible route to listen to my music and to be alone. I joked with friends in a mommy group and every single women did exactly the same thing. Looked for longer routes home to have time alone!
You might want to try a foreign language program/app. It's good for you to exercise your mind and for your baby to hear new sounds. I made homemade Christmas cards in my first year home. Baby scrapbooks are so big because so many women are home looking for things to do. Plotting family trees for your baby's history is fun too.
When I look back at thirty years ago, I remember my boredom and feeling stuck. Mainly, I miss it now. It's such a short period of time and once it's gone, it's over and there is a saddest about it.
When my husband worked 9 to 5, I would go out after dinner. Most times I ran into the supermarket for a couple of item - just to get out of the house! On the way home, I took the longest possible route to listen to my music and to be alone. I joked with friends in a mommy group and every single women did exactly the same thing. Looked for longer routes home to have time alone!
You might want to try a foreign language program/app. It's good for you to exercise your mind and for your baby to hear new sounds. I made homemade Christmas cards in my first year home. Baby scrapbooks are so big because so many women are home looking for things to do. Plotting family trees for your baby's history is fun too.
When I look back at thirty years ago, I remember my boredom and feeling stuck. Mainly, I miss it now. It's such a short period of time and once it's gone, it's over and there is a saddest about it.
Thank you those are good ideas. I’ll try the new languages
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