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Appreciate the detailed response
When you say consequences what specifically would you do ?
He’s 9 yr now , meds were started at 8 yr old and he’s at the lowest dose possible
Sports is something I need to look into further , he’s not very good at them
I wanted him to join scouts too but mom is opposed to it
Please share any other pearls on how you raised your kids
I'd be curious as to what your wife's objections are to Boy Scouts. It might help in offering some potential alternatives.
My son's behavior started deteriorating around that same age. And Minecraft was a big part of it. I could never understand why; the game itself is pretty benign, yet the more he played it, the worse he got. And it was just that one game; when he played other things on the computer, he didn't have the issues. The solution, of course, was to limit the time he was allowed to play Minecraft. But that came with its own set of issues and challenges.
I'd be curious as to what your wife's objections are to Boy Scouts. It might help in offering some potential alternatives.
My son's behavior started deteriorating around that same age. And Minecraft was a big part of it. I could never understand why; the game itself is pretty benign, yet the more he played it, the worse he got. And it was just that one game; when he played other things on the computer, he didn't have the issues. The solution, of course, was to limit the time he was allowed to play Minecraft. But that came with its own set of issues and challenges.
she says its too much for her as most meetings are at a time when I cannot take him as I'm working
He's having meltdowns with her, because he trusts her to continue loving him and not turn on him, and it's a safe place for him to vent his frustrations.
He keeps his frustrations in check all day, in less safe environments to express them, and he deposits them on her. So he can get through keeping them in check in other places.
^^^ This ^^^
Also age 9/10 is when school work becomes increasingly more abstract and complex. It's when learning differences become apparent.
It may be that he's just adjusting to a (1) different type of school work (not rote, but abstract), (2) social interaction are more complex (puberty), or (3) learning differences.
Ask your son's teacher if there are any changes in his school work or his moods.
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