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The junk food itself could be causing behavioral issues. You can google for some articles.
And it's not just "true" junk food but also any ultra processed foods like crackers, flavored yogurts, etc. and things that seem healthier than junk food but are still problematic
BUT it seems like anything you say will be met with resistance so if it were me, I'd say nothing and back off completely. Her problem is her own making and she's not taking any of your advice so it seems pointless.
A child will not starve themselves if no junk food is provided. They will eat healthy food if provided before starving if given no other choice.
A visit to the doctor may be necessary to back up the mother. This child may be beyond listening to her at this point but sometimes hearing a “rule” from the doctor carries more weight than from a parent. I wonder if allergy testing is needed in looking for behavior causes. A referral to a good childhood nutritionist might be helpful at this point.
The mom should have let her “have a fit” when she was two years old. Now she probably needs real psychological help. There may very well be a problem there especially as any child that deliberately hurts a pet needs help. The dog should be rehomed asap.
The tablet and Amazon app are just no-brainers. If an adult can’t handle those issues she needs help, too.
Something tells me nothing OP says or does will do anything. I’m surprised the school hasn’t gotten more involved but that may be a source of necessary counseling if the district is competent.
It does sound like she is spoiled and knows the Mother either can't or just won't do anything to help her child. I do wonder if she is spoiled or has some other problem.
Just curious again here. Does she wake up with nightmares? Does she think she see's the devil or things Mother can't even see?
Does your friend the Mother have medical issues of her own that prevent her from the strength or energy to deal with a screaming child?
Any Grandparent to help out? Maybe hire a professional to help with her tantrums.
Is she waiting for medical tests to be completed? Did she take her to a therapist to try and find out why this child is like this. Sometimes Bipolar children are mistaken for being spoiled temper tantrum out of control behavior. Then when they get past the age of 7 it gets worse.
A child will not starve themselves if no junk food is provided. They will eat healthy food if provided before starving if given no other choice.
A visit to the doctor may be necessary to back up the mother. This child may be beyond listening to her at this point but sometimes hearing a “rule” from the doctor carries more weight than from a parent. I wonder if allergy testing is needed in looking for behavior causes. A referral to a good childhood nutritionist might be helpful at this point.
The mom should have let her “have a fit” when she was two years old. Now she probably needs real psychological help. There may very well be a problem there especially as any child that deliberately hurts a pet needs help. The dog should be rehomed asap.
The tablet and Amazon app are just no-brainers. If an adult can’t handle those issues she needs help, too.
Something tells me nothing OP says or does will do anything. I’m surprised the school hasn’t gotten more involved but that may be a source of necessary counseling if the district is competent.
The school has to be careful they don't want a lawsuit. The requirements to be able to homeschool may depend on the state the child and parent are residing in.
I do hope the OP gets the friend to rehome the dog and not care if the child has another fit. That child has no respect or even wants the dog since she is abusing the dog. OP please offer to take the dog out of there and say you will keep the dog for safe keeping then rehome the dog if you don't want to keep it. She will get worse with how she treats the dog then Mother will have animal abuse charges filed if anyone from the school comes in see the hurt dog.
The mother eats healthy but unfortunately the child refuses to. It come down to the child's ability to control her mother.
I think it comes down to the mother's inability to control the child's environment. The mother has to set the parameters that the child lives by. Currently, those parameters are being set by the child. Things will get worse before they get better. Your friend needs to decide how much worse it's going to get before she decides to intervene.
The child should be diagnosed for autism or other issues, but having a tantrum isn't going to hurt the child. Missing a few meals won't hurt her either. She'll eat when she is hungry enough.
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