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>>From what I have learned about how a woman becomes pregnant, the dominating sperm, her boyfriends, would over power your sperm. So the likely hood is slim that it is yours.<<<
That is complete bunk. There's no such thing as 'dominating sperm' in humans. If the OP had sex with the woman when she was ovulating the child could be his.
She would have had her period in November, ovulated around December 4. Tested towards the end of December...making her around 4wks, give or take. There's NO way she was 10 weeks OR that hcg test put her there either. NO way.
Her EDD would be July for LMP in November.
I'm a mom, thus been pregnant, so that's my "expert" opinion.
I'm kind of accepting that yes it seems to be a 50/50 chance (if not more) of being mine, but if I am also simply a sperm donor than I guess so be it. Perhaps the child when it's born somewhere in LA in late august will eventually start looking like I did, or she may just wake up one day and realise just how close things are and bring it up with me. Oh well. Until then...
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She would have had her period in November, ovulated around December 4. Tested towards the end of December...making her around 4wks, give or take. There's NO way she was 10 weeks OR that hcg test put her there either. NO way.
Her EDD would be July for LMP in November.
I'm a mom, thus been pregnant, so that's my "expert" opinion.
Years ago I knew a woman who had a child with a man outside her marriage. She never told her husband. The child was raised as the son of the woman and her husband. My guess is the son eventually learned of his true paternity because his mother had let some people know the circumstances.
Stay friendly with her and don't pressure her about anything at this point. After the baby is born, you can ask her to have a paternity test done and her boyfriend does not have to know about it. If she doesn't want to do that, you can always bring a lawsuit to compel a paternity test.
Is that possible? Can any man demand any woman provide a paternity test? What if she claims she never had sex with the guy? Can she be forced to allow her child to have a paternity test?
Should the OP go ahead and demand the test and risk breaking up a family?
Is that possible? Can any man demand any woman provide a paternity test? What if she claims she never had sex with the guy? Can she be forced to allow her child to have a paternity test?
Should the OP go ahead and demand the test and risk breaking up a family?
You can where I live. I don't know about other jurisdictions, but I'm pretty sure you can.
Should he? I don't know. He risks breaking up the family and he also risks being obligated to pay child support for 18 years.
I saw a documentary about this. A woman's mother had an affair outside her marriage, got pregnant by the boyfriend and never told the husband. Raised the girl as her husbands. Years after her death, daughter finds out the truth and makes a documentary. It was Canadian-- heartbreaking in many ways. I wish I could remember the name.
As a woman who many years ago had a pregnancy scare with someone who was not my partner after a one night stand, I can tell you that if I HAD been pregnant, I would have seriously considered the course of action the OP's friend seems to be taking. Cut off contact and had the baby with my SO. I don't know if I would have been able to go through with it, but in brutal honesty, I would have strongly considered it.
Just think about it-- not only does this young lady have to admit she cheated but now there is a baby who may not be her partner's. And he's gonna be angry no doubt. Does she live with him? Is she financially independent? Who is the most stable parenting material? She may be making a very pragmatic decision. Not condoning, just saying.
And then there is the safety aspect. Women get killed over unwanted pregnancies. Not saying anyone is violent, but it is a difficult enough situation that it certainly could lead to some strong reactions.
OP, I would leave it alone if I were you. Unless I really really wanted to be a father with this woman-- like wanted to make a serious commitment to raising this kid.
You can where I live. I don't know about other jurisdictions, but I'm pretty sure you can.
I found this in a law library search:
"Paternity action may be court ordered. However, if the child already has a presumed father (typically the birth mother's partner or spouse), any paternity actions must generally be filed before the child reaches the age of 5. If no presumed father exists, a paternity action may be filed at any time before the child reaches the age of majority (usually 18 years old). In most states only the child can file for a paternity action once they become an adult. The child typically has a 1-5 year window to file the paternity action once they become an adult."
"Paternity action may be court ordered. However, if the child already has a presumed father (typically the birth mother's partner or spouse), any paternity actions must generally be filed before the child reaches the age of 5. If no presumed father exists, a paternity action may be filed at any time before the child reaches the age of majority (usually 18 years old). In most states only the child can file for a paternity action once they become an adult. The child typically has a 1-5 year window to file the paternity action once they become an adult."
I don't know if all jurisdictions have the same time limitations. What you posted doesn't seem quite fair, because the mother of a child with a presumed father could hide a child from the biological father until he was older than 5 so the man would never be able seek to have a paternity test done.
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