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I ran into a friend (more of an acquaintance) yesterday that I haven't seen or spoken to since my birthday party in September. She let me know that she is 4months pregnant. She's very excited to be a mom, however she has a little situation....she doesnt know who the dad is.
Her first doctor visit was on Oct 16, 2009 where she was told (by looking at the sonogram) that she was 4weeks, 3days pregnant. Here is why she doesnt know who the dad is: according to her, she hooked up with an ex on Sep 5, 2009 (funny how you remember dates when major things happen in your life) and then with a friend of mine at my birthday party on Sep 15, 2009.
As I mentioned, she is pretty excited about being a mom. She still hasnt decided if she is going to tell either guy about her situation, her thing being that she doesnt want to tell the wrong guy and worry them for nothing. She already knows that she will not know FOR SURE who the father is until (and if) she gets these guys tested for their DNA and she's fine with that.
I want to ease her fears just a little and help her figure out which of the two might be the likely candidate...
Being that these encounters (for lack of a better word) occured within 9days of eachother, who is the father of her unborn child? Her ex, or my friend?
Does she know the first day of when her missed period is? She could chart which day she may have potentially ovulated by working backwards. But this would only be an estimate assuming she had a regular cycle.
She should read the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility.
yeah, I would think she could go back to her last period, and figure it out from there. Nine days is close but there is typically only a week or so where you are actually fertile. If the first time she had sex was at the end of the fertile period, it is pretty obvious, if it was at the beginning of the fertile period, well not so much. I would think she would have some idea of her last period and how regular she is.
People it's 2010!! Are we still having unprotected sex??? I mean really. YUCKY!! Becoming pregnant should've been the least of her worries. Sorry, but your friend is nasty! And, not because of two lovers so close together.
I am surprised they saw enough on a sonogram to date the pregnancy at 4 weeks 3 days. Assuming that date is correct though, it is more likely to be your friend's, but it is not impossible that it is the other guy (ovulation doesn't always occur in the middle of a cycle, and other guy's sperm could have ben waiting around a while).
Okay well first, I believe an ultrasound is accurate +/- 5 days. Then you have to take into account when she may have ovulated which depends woman to woman. To be honest I think it is a little too close to be able say 100% for sure who the father is, but if I had to guess it looks like it could be your friends. But regardless, she needs to get a DNA test after the baby is born.
9 days together is way to close to call, she should just be focused on her and the baby for now and not concentrate her energies on a guy who may or may not want anything to do with this child. She can set herself up for a huge dissapointment if she's "sure" that it's one guy and then it turns out to be the other.
Sperm can survive inside of the human body for up to a week and the sonogram could be off by a couple of days...
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