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My ex who was bi polar I found out cheated on me a few times.
She told me when she’s having an episode she has to have sex right away with whoever is available and had no control over herself
Now iam pretty sensitive to mental health and people’s issues with that but it sounds insane to me that being bi polar means at times you need sex and arechelpless in trying to stop yourself from having it
Im sure people might be more prone to be impulsive and do risky things like having random sex while being BI polar but I refuse to believe you have zero control over it and can’t just resist your urges
To me it’s just an excuse to be selfish and lack control
Impulsiveness, a reckless pursuit of gratification (shopping sprees, impetuous travel, more and sometimes promiscuous sex, high-risk business investments, fast driving)
My ex who was bi polar I found out cheated on me a few times.
She told me when she’s having an episode she has to have sex right away with whoever is available and had no control over herself
Now iam pretty sensitive to mental health and people’s issues with that but it sounds insane to me that being bi polar means at times you need sex and arechelpless in trying to stop yourself from having it
Im sure people might be more prone to be impulsive and do risky things like having random sex while being BI polar but I refuse to believe you have zero control over it and can’t just resist your urges
To me it’s just an excuse to be selfish and lack control
I have known people who really suffered from bipolar disorder and that's not how it works for them. One woman in particular...she did have more casual sex when in one of her manic phases but it was not totally indiscriminate like that. I've never known a woman who felt like she just HAD to have sex with whoever was available. Though maybe some who had a hunger for interpersonal interaction but had a belief that they could only get someone to hang out with by offering sex to them. (I think that's somewhat common with young women/teenage girls who have shaky self esteem. When no one values you as a child, and suddenly you get sex appeal, it feels like the only power you ever had to get anyone to like you, or even to feel liked or appreciated or wanted even for a little while.)
She probably has more to unpack in her head than she thinks, about this.
In the meantime she needs to get ethical about this and stop trying to be in monogamous partnerships if she does not feel able to stand behind her commitments. Ethical Non Monogamy exists. There's no excuse to promise what you can't (or "can't") deliver.
My ex who was bi polar I found out cheated on me a few times.
She told me when she’s having an episode she has to have sex right away with whoever is available and had no control over herself
Now iam pretty sensitive to mental health and people’s issues with that but it sounds insane to me that being bi polar means at times you need sex and arechelpless in trying to stop yourself from having it
Im sure people might be more prone to be impulsive and do risky things like having random sex while being BI polar but I refuse to believe you have zero control over it and can’t just resist your urges
To me it’s just an excuse to be selfish and lack control
Bipolar is a mental health issue i.e. it’s bizarre you think it an ‘excuse’. That said, if your girlfriend/significant other acknowledges she is bipolar, then why isn’t she taking mood-stabilizing medication and treating it? In other words, she can do something about it; if not, you can.
My neighbor had bipolar and she would sometimes go crazy calling guys she knew to come over and have sex with her, literally begging and crying for them to come over right now. I could hear this through the wall, she was very loud. No one took her up on it. She was living at her boyfriend's place, this was while he was at work.
My ex who was bi polar I found out cheated on me a few times.
She told me when she’s having an episode she has to have sex right away with whoever is available and had no control over herself
Now iam pretty sensitive to mental health and people’s issues with that but it sounds insane to me that being bi polar means at times you need sex and arechelpless in trying to stop yourself from having it
Im sure people might be more prone to be impulsive and do risky things like having random sex while being BI polar but I refuse to believe you have zero control over it and can’t just resist your urges
To me it’s just an excuse to be selfish and lack control
It doesn't work that way. What you are suggesting is that executive function in the brain is always available. That is pure BS. An easy indication that your belief is fallacious is to try to convince a drunk of anything, much less have them give a lecture on morality. When I worked in the state hospital, the libido of some of the patients was intense. Back then, the way that was handled was to increase the thorazine until it diminished.
The idea of a person being "in control" at all times is what is known as a legal fiction. No system of law would be functional if a criminal could simply say "I wasn't in control at the time, sorry!" and walk free.
The issue is best exemplified in some cases of rape. Rape is a form of assault, and as such a rapist is automatically guilty of a crime. The law struggles at times with nuances. A bi-polar who is placed in a situation where their desire for sex is exacerbated has (during one phase of the disease) only a limited executive function, and that may be overcome by the illness. The legal consequences are supposed to fit a crime. Putting a bi-polar in prison doesn't cure the bi-polar illness. The victim of the assault is expecting a punitive verdict as a form of retribution. Sometimes the legal system has no good response to all the factors involved. At such times, about all it can do is attempt to protect the public at large.
If members of the public ever realized just how much of the time most people walk around with their executive function disabled or impaired, they would be numb with fear.
Putting a bi-polar in prison doesn't cure the bi-polar illness.
It’s not meant to; if it’s known (although unlikely), it’s treatable in prison - but it’s not curable. Relative to the OP, their partner knows they are bipolar and yet, they apparently aren’t doing anything about it. Why would the OP be foolish enough to stick around (especially because they think it an ‘excuse’).
That said, any sort of mental illness is actually a significant risk factor/vulnerability to be a victim of sexual assault.
It’s not meant to; if it’s known (although unlikely), it’s treatable in prison - but it’s not curable. Relative to the OP, their partner knows they are bipolar and yet, they apparently aren’t doing anything about it. Why would the OP be foolish enough to stick around (especially because they think it an ‘excuse’).
That said, any sort of mental illness is actually a significant risk factor/vulnerability to be a victim of sexual assault.
*sigh*
That last statement is utterly ridiculous and would get you a failing grade in a psych 101 class. As easy examples of why, someone with a fear of being touched would be an unlikely sexual aggressor, suicidal thoughts do not commonly include a desire to sexually assault, paranoia has no sexual content. Even within the category of paraphilia, aggression towards another is only within a small subset.
That last statement is utterly ridiculous and would get you a failing grade in a psych 101 class. .
It’s well-known/understood (as well as common sense) that someone with a sexual addiction or bipolar (who is experiencing a manic phase, as OP described, in which she is impulsive and seeks sex randomly) is more likely to place themselves in a high-risk situation with someone they don’t know than they otherwise would.
What’s utterly ridiculous is your statement.
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