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At the bottom of each "old" thread there is the following statement/notification:
"Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage any additional points of view."
"If you reply, this thread will be bumped to the top of the forum."
Seems pretty clear to me that the CD powers that be are actively encouraging the revival of older threads, so I don't know why someone always feels the need to come along and say "you realize this thread is blah blah years old, right?" instead of just moving along if it doesn't interest you.
At the bottom of each "old" thread there is the following statement/notification:
"Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage any additional points of view."
"If you reply, this thread will be bumped to the top of the forum."
Seems pretty clear to me that the CD powers that be are actively encouraging the revival of older threads, so I don't know why someone always feels the need to come along and say "you realize this thread is blah blah years old, right?" instead of just moving along if it doesn't interest you.
Because the poster was responding to a question asked three years ago about a situation that, for that reason, no longer applies and that is likely that the OP will never read anyway. It seemed like the poster didn't realize these things.
At the bottom of each "old" thread there is the following statement/notification:
"Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage any additional points of view."
"If you reply, this thread will be bumped to the top of the forum."
Seems pretty clear to me that the CD powers that be are actively encouraging the revival of older threads, so I don't know why someone always feels the need to come along and say "you realize this thread is blah blah years old, right?" instead of just moving along if it doesn't interest you.
Because the poster was responding to a question asked three years ago about a situation that, for that reason, no longer applies and that is likely that the OP will never read anyway. It seemed like the poster didn't realize these things.
It may "no longer" apply to THAT situation, but you can bet there are others in the same boat.
Well, for those who may still be interested in this question, we adopted our foster son on his third birthday, and changed his name completely. It has never been an issue whatsoever, and he is now almost 17. Kids are able to adapt to most things easily, but for those of you in limbo between fostering and adoption and want to change a very young child's name, if you use a nickname and never use your child's given name then it really isn't a big deal at all. We wanted to make it very difficult for his bio parents to ever find him, considering the type of people they are (now serving very long prison sentences), so we just called him "B" until the adoption hearing when we had his name legally changed. DSS would not let us call him by the name we had picked out until our adoption was legal. His given name started with a "B" and his new name did also, so DSS was ok with that.
Good point. Also, sometimes the court and agency actually prefer or mandate that the child's name be changed, especially if their birth name poses a safety threat to them and the new family because of the birth parent's past.
And I do think kids can and will adapt in the right environment.
Good point. Also, sometimes the court and agency actually prefer or mandate that the child's name be changed, especially if their birth name poses a safety threat to them and the new family because of the birth parent's past.
And I do think kids can and will adapt in the right environment.
Have a source handy that proves your point, that our judicial system/the courts/adoption agencies mandate that a child's name be changed? Are you certain that you aren't confusing all this with our federal witness protection program?
Nope. And I don't care to find one. I'm not looking to prove anything to you. However, if you'd like you can attend a local adoption class given by your state's foster care system and hear the stories for yourself. You are also welcome to sit in on family court hearings where TPRs are being ordered. As oft repeated on this forum, every adoption case is different.
Not all children are snatched away from birth parents who love them dearly and are unfairly coerced to relinquish their child. Some children have histories, bad ones. Terrible ones. And in these instances, it is often highly recommended or yes, even ordered that a name change be made.
In the case of infants, some birth mothers don't name their baby, their OBC says "baby boy" or "baby girl". In cases of abandonment, there is no name known. Here again, the social worker and judge will indeed mandate/order that a name be provided for the child. It really isn't as sinister as you imply.
Interestingly I found out doing a search that one need a court approval from a judge to change an adopted child's name and if the child is older you have to generally give a compelling reason. I hope that's true in all states.
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