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I think that is the best compliment you can give someone. It says to the person that you recognize they are working hard to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
Wow, lots of comments. I guess on my side, I was bullied for being the 'skinny, smart, nerd'. Lol I have always been called skinny by my peers, friends. Even if I'm way bigger than my mom and sis. I guess I consider 'skinny' a compliment. I have called my neighbor, new mom that, as she looks fantastic. And is thinner than before she was preggo. Lol
I got, as my sis still does, anorexic comments. And those are 'okay'. It's still okay to say anorexic, but not fat. My lil sis is tall and thin like me, but, no kids. Lol either can be hurtful. I hated my bullied, childhood. I was skinny and weak.
When someone tells me that 'You look skinny' whether it is a male or a female, is that compliment, neutral comment or something negative?
Ever get that?
Who cares what others think, say or do? If you are comfortable with how you are physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually does it really matter how others think you are? Does it seriously impact how you live your life? If someone tells you that you look skinny just say thanks and move on OR say nothing at all and move on or better yet........say whatever you want to say and move on.
Ah, this question has been the subject of argument in my household for some time. IMO, commenting on weight is rude unless the person has specifically mentioned a diet or exercise program and opened the door.
In most cases, I think "you look skinny" is meant as a compliment, unless it is accompanied by a sneer coming from a not skinny person. I just say thanks and change the subject, because I don't like our society's obsession with weight and thinness. What I wish I could say to the person is that it makes me uncomfortable when you notice my weight loss and comment on it because I feel like I'm being noticed and monitored. When you don't say anything, does that mean you think I've gained weight? So it makes me self-conscious around you. And when you don't say anything to me but I hear you compliment another person, I feel as if you are comparing us and I come up short (or heavier).
So yes, I think it's rude. However, I am always pleased when someone says "You look great" or "I love your outfit" or "You are glowing", because I do put in the work (watching the diet, exercising every day, trying to dress nice for my body type, etc.) and it's nice to have it recognized from time to time.
This post is dedicated to my MIL, who talks about weight way more than I think is healthy. One of our relatives brought over his new wife for Thanksgiving this year, and she just gushed about how skinny she was. How do you think this girl is going to feel when she puts on a little weight? She's a beautiful girl but my MIL just reduced her so that the only important thing is how skinny she is.
I felt compelled to comment . Id prefer someone to say I was in great shape, not skinny. I agree w/ InfoGuy; skinny means scrawny and skeletal looking; not a look I'd go for. Unfortunately Americans in general have gotten more obese, if you're no more than 20-30 overweight, it's shocking to some.
Who cares what others think, say or do? If you are comfortable with how you are physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually does it really matter how others think you are? Does it seriously impact how you live your life? If someone tells you that you look skinny just say thanks and move on OR say nothing at all and move on or better yet........say whatever you want to say and move on.
Well said I could not agree more. If I know I look good and feel good I could care less what someone else thinks of me. But I do like the comments that I look great.
I felt compelled to comment . Id prefer someone to say I was in great shape, not skinny. I agree w/ InfoGuy; skinny means scrawny and skeletal looking; not a look I'd go for. Unfortunately Americans in general have gotten more obese, if you're no more than 20-30 overweight, it's shocking to some.
At my house skinny is an insult. If someone looks thin but fit and well, it would be described as trim or nice or something like that.
My mom was called Olive Oyl growing up, because she was skinny (in a scrawny way). But for "white americans" I am sure she looked perfect. But she HATED having skinny legs and was jealous of her sisters and relatives etc who had bigger, more shapely legs and calves.
So I HATE the word skinny, and I don't really like thin, because they have negative connotations. Fit, trim, etc are all much better words to use in my book. I knew at a young age that skinny = bad.
Depends, are you skinny after having been a wee bit overweight? Have you been walking or jogging or whatever and toned and tightened a bit?
I always take it as a compliment no matter what unless it is my Mother who just KNOWS I haven't been eating properly but I'm sure that is a Mother thing....LOL
I was overweight according to the BMI defination at 5'8.5" 180lbs. It was only my stomach that was a little bit out waist size 37".
I am now 165lbs, more ripped and toned and a 32" waist. I was also once 115lbs in high school so I was a stick boy lol
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. Id prefer someone to say I was in great shape, not skinny. I agree w/ InfoGuy; skinny means scrawny and skeletal looking; not a look I'd go for. Unfortunately Americans in general have gotten more obese, if you're no more than 20-30 overweight, it's shocking to some. 
