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I appreciate all the poster's responses. Many recommend hiring the services to cover the yard, car, and house maintenace.
But but but...
I don't even know what I am supposed to get. One poster mentioned that the HVAC needs to be serviced regularly. I never had central a/c, that wasn't even on my list.
Some of it turns out to be ridiculously easy. I got a notice that I was delinquent in pressure-washing the side-walk in front of my house. All it involves, is standing and pointing the pressure washer. Seeing as I brought some of my husband's equipment w/ me. It doesn't make sense for me to pay to have that done. But I have no idea what is easy and what my husband only made to look easy. So I am figuring it out.
Not knowing how to do any of this, makes me feel even more out-of-control of a life that has been turned upside down. Becoming more self-reliant is important to me right now.
Some things are more important than others, just deal with the important things until you do not feel overwhelmed.
Servicing HVAC only requires a phone call, plus, and I'm sure someone will tell me I am wrong, but the system will not fall apart if you skip a maintenance.
But DO change your filter regularly, that IS important, pay attention to the arrows on the filter.
We live in the age of the internet, where we can google "home maintenance schedule", and POOF, it is right before us. You will be totally self reliant soon, everyday you learn something new.
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When we had our big "Snowmageddon" here in Texas in I think February, temps dropped below 0 for nearly a week. I mean, the HIGHS were like, 4 degrees. That's not typical for this area. Plus we had nearly a foot of snow, then ice, then more snow - OMG. Well, I was living in a very nice house in a very nice area, and by golly, I was responsible for it all, including the expensive pool equipment.
I remember I was on some social media platform, where everyone locally was talking about how to winterize stuff and some woman on there had a pool. She was 60 years old, and she didn't know what to do. Someone told her "wrap your pipes and drain your pumps." She said, "I'm just a poor old widow woman, I don't know anything about draining pumps. I'm just going to let it do whatever and hope for the best." (There were power outages in the forecast.) Pretty sure her equipment was damaged. What ticked me off is that by golly, I was responsible for this pool and the equipment and I did what I needed to do - and had no damage. I'm a 59 year old "widow woman."
It ticked me off that I knew I had no choice - if I didn't want a jacked up pool and yard and all that. I mean, I guess I DID have a choice - I could pay for extensive damages later - but I didn't pull the "old widow woman" card.
My husband had been dead for about 6 months.
I recall after the freeze broke, I called the pool company and said, "OK, I did everything I think I was supposed to do, but I'm scared to turn stuff on. Can you come out here and do that one thing?" They said sure, and came out and turned it all on, and it all worked with no damage. The pool company guy told me they had over 200 pumps backordered. No telling when they'd come in.
Was it a hassle to drain the pumps? Yes. Was it necessary? Yes. So I did it.
Your post made me cry. Here is a virtual hug. Everyone here can relate to how you are feeling. This sub-forum has made a real difference for me. I feel free to yell and cry here. I don't feel judged. Through everyone here, I have learned there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Unfortunately, I have also learned there are no shortcuts. I do feel less alone since coming here. I most appreciate the support and encouragement for my fledgling efforts to find a path forward. And the laughter and tears that we have shared over a common bond that none of us asked for.
Your post made me cry. Here is a virtual hug. Everyone here can relate to how you are feeling. This sub-forum has made a real difference for me. I feel free to yell and cry here. I don't feel judged. Through everyone here, I have learned there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Unfortunately, I have also learned there are no shortcuts. I do feel less alone since coming here. I most appreciate the support and encouragement for my fledgling efforts to find a path forward. And the laughter and tears that we have shared over a common bond that none of us asked for.
That’s my biggest issue. I have no family or friends. I am truly alone.
That hurts my heart.
It is never too late to form a new "family" and we are here for you.
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That’s my biggest issue. I have no family or friends. I am truly alone.
I know it's not quite the same but we're here for you! What a hard time you are going through.
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