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I remember your detail that he had his shirt sleeves rolled up. I liked that about him. Your husband sounds like he was a very good man.
Thank you so much. Yes, he was a TERRIFIC guy. He was handsome, cheerful, a jokester, and yet also very gentlemanly and chivalrous. I was lucky, lucky, lucky to be blessed by his love. He was precious.
Today is the anniversary of the day that I saw him pull out of our driveway for the last time. I think in about an hour or so two years ago. Sad.
Oh, KA, I remember that post ... I saw the thread title, thought "how sad," then I saw that YOU were the OP and I just couldn't believe it. I'd been following your swimming pool thread and thinking how much you and your husband were going to enjoy it in the Texas heat. Then, the horrible shock of his sudden death.
As you know I follow a lot of your posts so I know how amazing you are. I think I would have curled up in a ball and not talked to anyone for a year. I know how incredibly devastated you were, but you handled everything so well.
And now you have a new house (and have decorated it beautifully, as usual!) and 2 new kitties and I know you still miss your husband, but you have handled it all with style and grace.
I admire you tremendously. But I think you already know that too.
Yup, this is how we're wired. I guess.
Some things we never get over. We change. We deal with it.
I talk to my wife every day. I joke about stuff we laughed about. I do funny stuff that made her laugh. I thank the cats when they sleep or lounge on her space. She loved lap cat. I try to do the tasks I must do before I depart.
Yup, this is how we're wired. I guess.
Some things we never get over. We change. We deal with it.
I talk to my wife every day. I joke about stuff we laughed about. I do funny stuff that made her laugh. I thank the cats when they sleep or lounge on her space. She loved lap cat. I try to do the tasks I must do before I depart.
I agree and I talk to my husband and smile at funny things and memories and ongoing stuff that he'd find funny (he had a terrific sense of humor). But you're right - some things we just never get over and I don't think I will ever get over the shock and suddenness of his death, or just the fact that we had each other and now he's just gone. Never ever ever to return. Ugh.
Oh, KA, I remember that post ... I saw the thread title, thought "how sad," then I saw that YOU were the OP and I just couldn't believe it. I'd been following your swimming pool thread and thinking how much you and your husband were going to enjoy it in the Texas heat. Then, the horrible shock of his sudden death.
As you know I follow a lot of your posts so I know how amazing you are. I think I would have curled up in a ball and not talked to anyone for a year. I know how incredibly devastated you were, but you handled everything so well.
And now you have a new house (and have decorated it beautifully, as usual!) and 2 new kitties and I know you still miss your husband, but you have handled it all with style and grace.
I admire you tremendously. But I think you already know that too.
Thank you so much, my friend. What a kind and touching post.
I can't tell you how glad I am that we built that pool and that he enjoyed it so much during his last summer on this earth. I have a video of him in it, in fact, and I wouldn't take a million dollars for it. He was laughing and talking with our old dog (who is still alive!). He was swimming with her. I have watched that about a gazillion times.
Aside note - normally I would have taken a loss on the pool, but here's the really interesting thing. The house I bought, I bought RIGHT BEFORE the housing bubble hit. Then I sold the house with the pool, after the housing bubble hit. So between the two, I didn't lose a penny on the pool, thank goodness.
I definitely felt like he would approve of that!
As for the other stuff, yes, as you know, I was devastated by losing him. Absolutely gobsmacked too. But here's how I feel about it - I firmly believe that God doesn't place value on time per se. So his age didn't matter. And I also believe that his days on this earth were numbered from the beginning of time (see how I can't get away from that concept? LOL). I believe I was blessed to have him in my life. And I believe it's my duty to be all I can be, so to speak, for as long as I am here - that may be till later this afternoon, or for 30 more years or whatever. So I do thank you because I am just trying to bring glory to God through my life. I don't always succeed but thankfully He doesn't require perfection. Just trying, I believe.
And we here, Believe in you Kathryn!
We believe you'll share and allow guidance to be welcomed.
Each ' circle back' to that moment of loss is never duplicated. It sometimes will be ' wow, why aren't I ( fill in the feeling).
One year ( I think it was the fourth or fifth anniversary of a deep loss I had) went completely passed. I had been absorbed in a career matter. Then about ten days later I woke up utterly sobbing. Out of no where . Then I said .. ohh so it's not a calendar time... It happens out of the blue.
Which reminds me... I recall how you spoke of your husband's eyes. I pray the sky is that shade when you give pause to his life and how he lived it with you! Such love .
I also was following your fantastic pool plans and then construction. I was just stunned when you posted about your sweet husband’s passing. It was so shocking.
Your shared thoughts and feelings of the past two years have surely helped many people so I hope you are aware of that.
It’s amazing how fast time is going. It’s hard to believe it’s already been 2 years. I have followed your journey and you are a strong amazing person. Sending a giant hug).
I also was following your fantastic pool plans and then construction. I was just stunned when you posted about your sweet husband’s passing. It was so shocking.
Your shared thoughts and feelings of the past two years have surely helped many people so I hope you are aware of that.
I'm so, so grateful that he got to spend a summer enjoying that pool.
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