Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
The reason this wasn't placed under relationships is because I'm not in a relationship and no one is having issues besides me with my fastasy.
I must say there was a very brief hiatus, where he wasn't in my thoughts. I had two past bfs but it never led to marriage. One wasted my time and ended up admitting he never wanted marriage and thought it was a piece of paper, lying about wanting it just to get me as his gf. The other bf ended up cheating. It has to be some jealousy towards my sister. She has what I want; a loving husband, stability happiness and kids.
This sounds like a serious need for professional help.
The reason this wasn't placed under relationships is because I'm not in a relationship and no one is having issues besides me with my fastasy.
I must say there was a very brief hiatus, where he wasn't in my thoughts. I had two past bfs but it never led to marriage. One wasted my time and ended up admitting he never wanted marriage and thought it was a piece of paper, lying about wanting it just to get me as his gf. The other bf ended up cheating. It has to be some jealousy towards my sister. She has what I want; a loving husband, stability happiness and kids.
But you CAN have this if you move on with your life. You're not going to get him. All you're doing is holding yourself back.
This isn't healthy either btw. Does your sister have any idea??
Not normal, not healthy and if your sister ever finds out of your inappropriate feelings, you will lose a sister. I get the vibe that you do not care about that last part.
__________________ ____________________________________________
My posts as a Mod will always be in red.
Be sure to review Terms of Service: TOS
And check this out: FAQ
Moderator: Relationships Forum / Hawaii Forum / Dogs / Pets / Current Events
My older sister's husband is my forbidden and unrequited love. I've always had a crush on him since the day I (then 12 years old) laid my eyes on him. He's handsome in every single way, both physically and in personality. They met during their HS years. They were 15 year-olds at the time. Before they started dating, I tried getting him in a couple conversations but to him, I was a kid and had no interest in me. It was too late when they started dating. I've kept my first journal dated back from the day I first met him.
14 Years Later
They've been married for 8 years, have a 5 year-old daughter and are now expecting twin boys. Even so, my love for him never waned. He's still the most decent, handsome guy I've ever met, just older but the same. Sadly I have to forget him. In my fantasies and private journals, it isn't just sexual fantasies (I was 14 the first time I had a sex dream about him) but the life I've imagined I would've had with him. Can this be normal?
Are you SERIOUSLY asking if this is normal? OF COURSE it isn't!
You have lived in fantasy land for far far far too long and you've put your real life on hold for a fantasy. No. That's not normal
You really don’t know your BIL very well, as you’re not in a relationship with him. You have created a fantasy and projected it onto him. So of course no one you date will measure up—the person you are in love with is not real. You would find that, if you were in a r-ship with your BIL, even he would not measure up to the perfect fantasy man you have imagined him to be and created in your mind.
Is it normal? What’s your definition of “normal”? I think a lot of people fantasize but most do so with people whom they don’t know (celebrities, porn stars). And most know it’s a fantasy and continue on with their lives.
Are you SERIOUSLY asking if this is normal? OF COURSE it isn't!
You have lived in fantasy land for far far far too long and you've put your real life on hold for a fantasy. No. That's not normal
OP, what about learning how to channel this secret unrequited energy into something less destructive and by doing so spare your poor BIL, the rest of your family, as well as yourself? These may provide food for thought:
Last edited by Parnassia; 04-19-2024 at 04:50 PM..
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
