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Old 04-18-2024, 11:46 PM
 
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My older sister's husband is my forbidden and unrequited love. I've always had a crush on him since the day I (then 12 years old) laid my eyes on him. He's handsome in every single way, both physically and in personality. They met during their HS years. They were 15 year-olds at the time. Before they started dating, I tried getting him in a couple conversations but to him, I was a kid and had no interest in me. It was too late when they started dating. I've kept my first journal dated back from the day I first met him.

14 Years Later
They've been married for 8 years, have a 5 year-old daughter and are now expecting twin boys. Even so, my love for him never waned. He's still the most decent, handsome guy I've ever met, just older but the same. Sadly I have to forget him. In my fantasies and private journals, it isn't just sexual fantasies (I was 14 the first time I had a sex dream about him) but the life I've imagined I would've had with him. Can this be normal?
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Old Yesterday, 05:21 AM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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Are YOU married?
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Old Yesterday, 06:14 AM
 
Location: Central Virginia
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My older sister's husband is my forbidden and unrequited love. I've always had a crush on him since the day I (then 12 years old) laid my eyes on him. He's handsome in every single way, both physically and in personality. They met during their HS years. They were 15 year-olds at the time. Before they started dating, I tried getting him in a couple conversations but to him, I was a kid and had no interest in me. It was too late when they started dating. I've kept my first journal dated back from the day I first met him.

14 Years Later
They've been married for 8 years, have a 5 year-old daughter and are now expecting twin boys. Even so, my love for him never waned. He's still the most decent, handsome guy I've ever met, just older but the same. Sadly I have to forget him. In my fantasies and private journals, it isn't just sexual fantasies (I was 14 the first time I had a sex dream about him) but the life I've imagined I would've had with him. Can this be normal?
No.
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Old Yesterday, 06:16 AM
 
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Not normal. Except for a penthouse letter.
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Old Yesterday, 06:17 AM
 
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No, I'm not married nor in a relationship.
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Old Yesterday, 06:25 AM
 
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Not normal. You need to work on finding your own partner so you can erase these unhealthy feelings.
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Old Yesterday, 06:25 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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No, I'm not married nor in a relationship.
If your fantasy "love" for a married man is keeping you from relationships of your own... that is not normal.
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Old Yesterday, 06:32 AM
 
Location: In The South
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Shouldn’t this be under Relationships?
And why are these types of posts always Post #1?

OP, no, not normal. You need to move on, stop thinking about this guy.
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Old Yesterday, 07:01 AM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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Not normal. Except for a penthouse letter.
And Harlequin books.

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If your fantasy "love" for a married man is keeping you from relationships of your own... that is not normal.
^^^ This. That's why l asked.
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Old Yesterday, 07:09 AM
 
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The reason this wasn't placed under relationships is because I'm not in a relationship and no one is having issues besides me with my fastasy.

I must say there was a very brief hiatus, where he wasn't in my thoughts. I had two past bfs but it never led to marriage. One wasted my time and ended up admitting he never wanted marriage and thought it was a piece of paper, lying about wanting it just to get me as his gf. The other bf ended up cheating. It has to be some jealousy towards my sister. She has what I want; a loving husband, stability happiness and kids.

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