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Sorry, but why would anyone put up with someone like that. It doesn't matter what he has said or done, there is no excuse for abusive behavior. I wouldn't call him a pervert, I just would call him crude and abusive. I would walk away, fast. But I would have done that quite a while back, at the first instance of abuse. Surely you can do better. Unless you are kindred spirits.
Thank you so much to every one of you who replied. I needed to hear objective opinions.
I have a history of taking verbal abuse from family, friends and brushing it off or downplaying it.
I have a lot of work to do on myself. Doing it solo is the best way.
Thank you again. I am grateful to all of you.
Late to this thread, but I wanted to say that this sounds like a relationship I had five years ago, except for the sex offender part and there wasn't any name-calling. However, the behavior and the stress from it was all too much, and it did escalate. He would call the cops on me for no reason at all, and throw me out in the middle of the night, things like that. He would whip it out to pee in full view of the neighbors on his rural property, which had telescopes and security cameras trained on it because of his reputation. He called it "marking his territory."
The guy that this thread is about probably has "alcohol brain" (brain damage and inability to comprehend or use reasoning faculties) on top of everything else. Get him out of your life. IT DOES NOT GET BETTER. In fact, it escalates. Don't even try to be friends. I tried that and it would be fine (via text) for a while but the end he'd have a meltdown and send 100 vile and abusive texts within a few hours' time. Nobody needs that kind of stuff in their life.
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Wow. Flashback.
During the first breakup of two months, we did occasionally text. Then one night hehad a drunken meltdown and sent a bunch of awful texts. He started therapy and cut back on drinking which is why I forgave him. My mistake.
Al-Anon, for family, friends of alcoholics. Free. Please, type Al-Anon for a location near you. For me, I had a choice, victim or survivor. In the meetings, meet many caring people.
They share their experience, strength and hope.
Where and how he scratches his balls is not important, and you are free to have your own opinion of it.
Drunken abuse is completely out of line, and if you think drinking is an excuse (I don't), MAYBE once can be forgiven. Twice, that's it. Now the question is not his behavior, but yours. Why are you putting up with this?
His slightly off behavior while camping hints at regression to previous behavior, if in fact he ever abandoned it. And then a third intemperate reaction.
No need to come to a conclusion on whether he is a pervert - he has already shown you that you need to stay away from him. You might want to find out why you haven't split up already. Some people would pay a lot of money and time on this, but I think you already know the answer.
If you are selling yourself short, don't.
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