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Because they are friends and it is a great chance to catch up? I've left jobs, not because I hated the, but for other opportunities and such. I don't think I've EVER left a job because I hated the people.
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Okay, for the people who think their coworkers are their friends:
1. Have you ever overheard one of these smiley "friends" badmouth you to another worker or worse, a manager, when they think you are out of earshot and then pretend they are your buddy when sitting next you? I have.
2. When one of these "friends" who you talked to every day leaves the company or you leave the company, ever notice that the "friendship" pretty much stops immediately?
When I first started working, I believed that I had friends in the workplace. A couple of backstabbings and the realization that none of these people actually cared about me changed my mindset about work friends.
Co-workers/management aren't your friend. They're all backstabbing snakes and will steal a coin from your corpse if given the chance. I wouldn't trust anyone in corporate america and what they say even if their tongue was notarized. Real "Friends" and friendships are generally only made when you're a child when there is no transaction of money and BS corporate competition going on. And even that can go wayward. But generally kids are simple and that age isn't all about "Stabbing someone in the back to move up the ladder".
You want real friends, you would have needed to make them in school or on the playground or in the neighborhood when you were a small child. Grownups will generally just LIE to you. Kids are far more honest
I once had a non-coworker friend stab me in the back, so NONE of my friends are actually friends?
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Wow. So I guess my wedding party was just there to backstab me. I mean, the folks in the wedding - you know, those folks I became friends with over the years? Now their groomsmen and such?
What exactly did they get out of backstabbing me in that particular situation?
I guess 20 years of pro-sporting events together was just a convenient way for them to...what? Sit next to someone they can't stand, while paying their own way at all times?
How 'bout those weekends on the wine trails ? Those were all a gimmick? A way to abuse me...somehow...
They must be playing the long - lonnnnnnnnnng - long - game - because whatever it is they're going for - they must super duper suck at it.
Some of you gotta just look in the mirror. If you're not making friends - it's you. It is. Accept it and move on.
I'm just thinking about how many of my co-workers from current and past jobs showed up at my husband's funeral, and how many from his work showed up also.
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Co-workers/management aren't your friend. They're all backstabbing snakes and will steal a coin from your corpse if given the chance. I wouldn't trust anyone in corporate america and what they say even if their tongue was notarized. Real "Friends" and friendships are generally only made when you're a child when there is no transaction of money and BS corporate competition going on. And even that can go wayward. But generally kids are simple and that age isn't all about "Stabbing someone in the back to move up the ladder".
You want real friends, you would have needed to make them in school or on the playground or in the neighborhood when you were a small child. Grownups will generally just LIE to you. Kids are far more honest
1. Have you ever overheard one of these smiley "friends" badmouth you to another worker or worse, a manager, when they think you are out of earshot and then pretend they are your buddy when sitting next you? I have.
Then they were never really your work friend. Even when you're friendly with people at work, you still are there to do a job, and you still have to be able to communicate effectively and sometimes have difficult conversations without taking things personally.
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2. When one of these "friends" who you talked to every day leaves the company or you leave the company, ever notice that the "friendship" pretty much stops immediately?
Situational friendships at work aren't all that unusual. Sometimes you meet people on the job who become part of your circle for life, and sometimes you wish them well and never interact again (except maybe through social media)
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